Wednesday, 31 January 2018

Experience


"Experience is the name everyone gives to their mistakes." Oscar Wilde

Oscar was being a little naughty with this statement. But then again, naughtiness came easily to Oscar! We do learn from our mistakes.Often in my recovery meetings I share my story and tell some of the mistakes and mishaps in my life, and that usually there is a learning curve associated with these incidents. In the shadow of my life I discover the light! Also my experience is fed by the stories and incidents that other people share. That's why I love to read. On a daily basis I enrich my experiences by allowing myself to be teachable. You really can teach an old dog new tricks.

Today I gain experience from my mistakes.

On this day of your life



I believe God wants you to know ...

... that fear is one of the main sources of cruelty. To
conquer fear is the beginning of wisdom.

Bertrand Russell said that, and he was right. 
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross said, "Fear and guilt are the only 
enemies of man." She was right, too. 
And Franklin Roosevelt famously said, 
"The only thing we have to fear
is fear itself."

Your Excuse Catalog OR Affirmations to Transform Your Biggest (WD)

I’ve heard many reasons that people use to explain an unhappy existence… and almost all of them inevitably fall into one huge category, which I call “excuses.”

Here is a list of 18 of the most commonly used excuses and an affirmation for each. The affirmations will assist you in making a conscious effort to encourage yourself to elevate your beliefs, unquestionably!
  1. It will be difficult: I have the ability to accomplish any task I set my mind to with ease and comfort.
  2. It’s going to be risky: Being myself involves no risks. It is my ultimate truth, and I live it fearlessly.
  3. It will take a long time: I have infinite patience when it comes to fulfilling my destiny.
  4. There will be family drama: I would rather be loathed for who I am than loved for who I am not.
  5. I don’t deserve it: I am a Divine creation, a piece of God. Therefore, I cannot be undeserving.
  6. It’s not my nature: My essential nature is perfect and faultless. It is to this nature that I return.
  7. I can’t afford it: I am connected to an unlimited source of abundance.
  8. No one will help me: The right circumstances and the right people are already here and will show up on time.
  9. It has never happened before: I am willing to attract all that I desire, beginning here and now.
  10. I’m not strong enough: I have access to unlimited assistance. My strength comes from my connection to my Source of being.
  11. I’m not smart enough: I am a creation of the Divine mind; all is perfect, and I am a genius in my own right.
  12. I’m too old (or not old enough): I am an infinite being. The age of my body has no bearing on what I do or who I am.
  13. The rules won’t let me: I live my life according to Divine rules.
  14. It’s too big: I think only about what I can do now. By thinking small, I accomplish great things.
  15. I don’t have the energy: I feel passionately about my life, and this passion fills me with excitement and energy.
  16. It’s my personal family history: I live in the present moment by being grateful for all of my life experiences as a child.
  17. I’m too busy: As I unclutter my life, I free myself to answer the callings of my soul.
  18. I’m too scared: I can accomplish anything I put my mind to, because I know that I am never alone.

Traveling Companions (OM)




Like birds flying in a "V," when we feel the presence of others moving along side of us, there is little we cannot accomplish.


As they swoop, drift, and glide, inscribing magnificent patterns across the sky, birds are serene displays of grace and beauty. Long a source of inspiration, birds can be messengers from the spirit realm, or a symbol of the human soul, as they cast off their earthly mooring and soar heavenward. An upturned wing, a graceful flutter, all so effortless and free... More magnificent still is the inspiring sight of birds migrating, progressing steadily across the horizon in a solid V formation that is a singular pattern too unique to be mere chance.

Pushing steadily forward, this aerodynamic V reduces air resistance for the whole flock. With wings moving in harmony, the feathered group continues its course across the sky, covering more ground together in community than as individuals. When the bird at the front gets tired, she will move to the rear of the formation where the wind drag is lowest, and a more rested bird can take her place.

By learning from the example of our winged guides, all of us can feel empowered to take on daring challenges as we chart adventurous courses. Feel the strength of others moving alongside you, as their presence lends power to your wings during this journey across the sky of life. When buffeted by unexpected gusts, we can choose to find refuge in the loving shelter of friends and family. We may even marvel as an otherwise difficult day passes by like a swift wind, as a kindred spirit charts a way for us through the clouds and rain ahead. If your wings begin to ache on your journey, look around for somebody else to fly at the front for a while. All of us move faster when we move together. Let your ego drop earthwards as we all soar ever higher.

Here’s to Self-Health: Tips for Finding Balance Naturally.


Via Tina Picz Devoe

I grew up with the notion that we unquestionably needed doctors to diagnose and heal us every time we were ill, as though we were broken and required fixing by someone other than ourselves.

It was’t until I reached my 20s that I began seeking a different path to healing, understanding holistic health, and empowering myself to take wellness into my own hands at a deeper level.
As we endure a brutal winter season in our region with many friends falling prey to the dreaded flu, I’m focusing on something I’ve found increasingly important lately: self-directed healing, which means taking our health into our own hands, and empowering ourselves to be our own healthcare providers as best we can, instead of relying on others to do it for us. Of course we’re not all medical experts, and when absolutely necessary our family occasionally pays a visit to them, but only after we have exhausted all other options of self-care.
Who knows our bodies better than we do? We are with ourselves all of the time; we know what we ingest, our stress levels, how well we’ve rested (or not), if we’ve taken care of our bodies or mistreated them—so we may as well make the effort to learn what our bodies (and minds) need by carefully observing and checking in to find what adds to our health or detracts from it.
Over time, we may come to know our health more deeply and will then be able to more aptly care for ourselves in gentle, natural ways that don’t require as many expensive trips to the doctor, harsh chemicals (pharmaceuticals), or invasive procedures.
If we’ve allowed health issues to build up throughout our lives and have expected others to “fix us” every time we’ve fallen ill, we may need much more drastic or financially-destabilizing care down the line, as many of us haven’t learned the basics of personally caring for our uniquely individual bodies.
Holistic self-care at home has been greatly beneficial in aiding my family’s health, keeping us out of clinics, and allowing us to avoid the need for medication and hospitalization for the majority of the past decade. As we raise our eight-year-old daughter, I am so thankful that she has taken interest in understanding her body, what it needs, when it’s not at its highest state of well-being, and what to do in order to heal and reduce inflammation or boost immunity.
If ever we feel ourselves on the brink of a cold, body ache, or other illness, the first place we turn is to the kitchen.
The first question we ask in our home is, “What have we consumed lately, and has it helped or hindered our wellness?” Finding the root causes of our health issues allows us to solve them at the core, rather than putting a quick, convenient fix on them which often leads to them returning later on.
Illness is just a another word for imbalance, and seeking balance in all of our bodily systems will allow greater functioning.
After my own childhood of constantly taking prescription medication, these last several years I have been amazed to witness repeatedly that almost every illness that comes upon us can be thwarted, reversed, healed, or reduced in length or severity by paying closer attention to and altering the food we eat, beverages we imbibe, or herbs and home remedies we utilize.
All of the information I’ve gathered here comes from years of personally experimenting with various ways of boosting immunity and reducing inflammation in the body, according to books and online research, as well as by word of mouth from friends and family.
Some call it folk medicine, passed on through generations of ancestral experience, a method used for centuries before Western medicine arrived on the scene rather recently. What I call it is self-empowerment, and it has changed my life drastically, from previously viewing myself as a weak, sick child, to now having great confidence in my body’s amazing capacity to heal itself if treated naturally and patiently with mindful care.
Some of these are simple, momentary remedies, while others require much more longterm effort to adopt, making them more of a lifestyle change of deeply ingrained habits. Overall, they have benefitted our family’s health immensely and I hope that they may do the same for you.

Eight Holistic Life Hacks for Greater Health:

1. Drink More Water.
I can’t emphasize this enough. Though it may seem too simplistic, it’s my favorite health tip because it works wonders and is vitally important.
We are all made of water; we are born from it, it is our blood builder and cleanser, it allows our cells and organs to heal and reproduce, our skin to stay bright, supple, glowing, and clear of disorders. With water, we rid ourselves of toxic waste that enters us through food, chemical products, and polluted air.
Wake up and drink warm water every day, as soon as you get up. It prepares the body for easing digestion before we eat and allows mucous to loosen and remain fluid and moving. It also allows lymph (bodily fluid which cleanses the blood) to do its job more efficiently. Often, we may think we’re hungry but it’s actually a deep thirst. Hydration = health.
2. Run to the Kitchen.
The first step for almost anyone experiencing health problems should be to balance gut flora, meaning to cleanse the digestive system so that healthy bacteria can do it’s job while we reduce the unhealthy bacteria lurking there.
When it comes to health, food can either be our best ally or our worst enemy. After many years of trying various eating paths, I now choose not to view certain foods as “good” or “bad,” as this may cause an unhealthy relationship with our eating habits. Instead, I teach my daughter that every food we choose can either add to our health and immunity or detract from it at varied levels, depending on how each of our bodies individually reacts to certain foods.
Although we generally do not eat loads of packaged, processed foods or novelty items with cartoons or characters on boxes, we mostly try to shift the focus onto balance rather than restriction, avoidance, or deprivation, attempting to eat whole foods with their natural nutrients still intact for the majority of our meals. At the first sign of any illness, we head to probiotics, loose-leaf herbal teas, the juicer, or the blender to get a lot of antioxidant-rich vegetables and fruits into our guts in order to begin cleansing the body of toxins or bacteria that may be causing imbalance.
Our gut health is imperative in order for all other body systems to function well. The digestive system controls more than our bowels and food processing; in fact, a growing number of scientists are now studying the correlation between gut health, our mental health, and the nervous system—that “gut feeling.” Much like ancient Chinese medicine or Indian Ayurvedic paths, we find that all of our systems are greatly interconnected and rely on one another for ultimate, balanced health.
3. Up and Out.
When we have excess mucous or phlegm buildup in the lungs, nose, or gut, we need to flush it out, allowing the airways and digestive system to open and continue to move waste out.
“Up and out” is the phrase that I repeat to my child (and myself) when we are ill. Just keep moving things up and out, whether emotional or physical blocked energy, tears, mucus, lymph fluid, digestive waste, etc.— continuously release and get these moving in whatever way possible, as toxins will go along with them. (Drinking more water is a big help with this.)
Also, contrary to much advice about resting a lot when we’re sick, getting up and outside for fresh air, walking, yoga, dance, or other gentle movement can be helpful in cleansing the lungs, blood, and moving toxins or byproducts of food waste out of us. Keep it moving, and the body will heal faster, provided you have also gotten the adequate amount of rest needed for cellular repair.
4. Learn the Lymph.
It wasn’t until this past year that I began learning about the lymphatic system as I suddenly faced issues with my own. Our lymphatic system is a series of vessels carrying a fluid (lymph), which cleanses the blood of impurities, as the digestive system allows food nutrients to enter the bloodstream to be utilized throughout the body for healing.
If the lymphatic system (where white blood cells are formed) has an overload of infectious agents, it will hold onto them to restrain and detoxify the blood and may become swollen, which is why doctors check for soreness of lymph nodes in the neck when you are ill. It is a sign that the body is fighting something and attempting to detoxify.
I had issues with swelling lymph nodes in my neck, causing pain and difficulty swallowing, and learned that this could be a precursor to developing certain types of cancer if not treated. I chose to treat the swelling naturally, by getting my body moving through yoga and briskly walking outside. Also, I utilized herbs, salt water gargles, and immune-boosting teas as well as topical herbal compresses, such as turmeric, ginger, and apple cider vinegar. This helped the swelling to subside within a few days as my lymph nodes were clearly battling some sort of infectious bacteria.
Depending on our care of the body, lymph, and immune responses, we either aid in the spreading of cancerous (mutated or damaged) cells or healthy cells. Therefore, our diet and all that we consume by mouth, skin, or air entering our lungs, may be fighting or feeding cancer and all other health issues we face.
5. Ginger, Ginger, Ginger.
It’s a no brainer for me—as soon as a cold, pain, ache, flu, sniffle, or sore throat begins, I run to the ginger. It is warming, healing, immune-boosting, and flushes all kinds of waste out quickly.
Whether you juice it, add it to a smoothie, shred and eat it raw in food, drink it in tea form with lemon and honey, or massage it onto an achey body or congested chest, it is a magical gem in the holistic health world. It promotes energy circulation in the body and can increase our body’s metabolic rate; it contains chromium, magnesium, and zinc which speed healing and improve blood flow, prevents chills, fever, and excessive sweat; it induces cell death in ovarian cancer cells, remedies motion sickness, morning sickness, nausea, stomach gas, and indigestion. Don’t underestimate this plant! 
4. Clove Essential Oil.
I have used this warming essential oil topically for a host of ailments. Dilute a tiny drop of the oil with water or a carrier oil and dab it on cold sores. It is a strong antibacterial, quickly killing germs and stopping the spread of the virus cells from reproducing. It stings a lot if not diluted and should not be placed close to the nose or eyes (mucous membranes). It can also be numbing for pain relief all over the body.
We sometimes bathe with a tiny drop of it or massage aches with it mixed into a carrier oil such as coconut or jojoba. We also utilize many other essential oils as they are simply plant nutrients that aid in healing. For example, breathing in the steam of water mixed with Tea Tree or Rosemary oil can improve breathing when congested.
5. Epsom Salt.
Taking an epsom salt bath is like a holistic luxury dream, as it is extremely inexpensive and can do wonders for so many ailments.
Epsom salt, which is a form of the mineral magnesium, gets its name from the place where it was discovered: Epsom, England. It is composed of magnesium and sulfate compounds and plays a vital role in regulating the body’s functioning and healing. Magnesium deficiency is becoming increasingly common for many, as our food contains less of the mineral due to modern farming methods which do not allow the nutrient to reach levels that it did when organic, local farming was the norm decades ago.
Magnesium sulfate is an electrolyte and an essential building block of brain tissue and joint proteins, and it is also known as a strengthening agent of the walls of our digestive tract. Since magnesium sulfate is readily absorbed through the skin, it makes complete sense to derive maximum benefit through soaking in bath water.
6. Eat More Plants.
This one is self-explanatory. Plants are incredible healers, filled with nutrients and minerals we desperately need, so eat them more and your health will improve drastically.
If you have difficulty digesting raw foods that are high in fiber, be sure not to overdo it. According to Ayurveda, the traditional Indian system of medicine, warm foods are easier on our digestive tracts. Certain plants will help to reduce inflammation and acidity in the body, making our pH more alkaline. Generally, the higher the sugar content in a food, the more acidic it is, which can lead to health issues. Eat more alkalinizing foods, as seen on this chart.
7. Use Fewer Chemicals on the Body, Skin, and Food.
The more harsh chemical products that we use, like lotions, makeup, shampoo, soap, artificial fragrances, home cleaning agents, laundry detergents, and pesticides, the more we are taking into our bodies and the harder our systems must work to function properly at cleansing and removing the toxic waste.
This requires more work from our digestive systems, our lungs, kidneys, and cardiovascular and lymphatic systems to rid us of the hundreds of chemicals inhaled, ingested, consumed, rubbed on, and soaked in. Think of how many chemicals you’ve already put on your body today before leaving the house, simply by showering and going through your daily routine.
When the lymphatic system is overloaded, it will release toxins through the skin. When unnatural fibers (like nylon or polyester) are worn and chemical creams, deodorant, or soaps are applied to the skin, toxin release through the skin is blocked. Much of what should be eliminated is re-absorbed along with some of the new toxins from the chemical-laden clothes and skin products. This slows detoxification, and keeps us ill longer. A product survey conducted by the Environmental Working Group in 2004 revealed that more than 25 percent of all women and one in every 100 men use at least 15 products daily that could contain toxins and carcinogens.
Additionally, buying new clothing, toys, gadgets, and furniture can bring large amounts of chemicals into the home, as they are made with unnatural materials and dyes, “off-gassing” air pollution from the factories where they are made and the plastic packaging that they arrive in.
In our home, we attempt to reduce the amount of chemicals entering our bodies (and our carbon footprint) by seeking products with the least ingredients and made with natural, organic materials, as well as saving money by not buying many new items, but instead buying used, vintage, and second-hand when possible. The more we buy newly made products, the more polluted our air and water become. This effects not only us, but countless others living in the countries where many of our products are made, often in unsafe working conditions and polluted environments.
To reduce waste and increase health, reduce personal consumption.
8. Self-Massage with Oil (Abyangha).
This one is a huge help when we’re on the brink of a cold or other illness. We can’t all afford a spa day every month, but self-massage works wonders as a preventative measure. If we make a point of practicing self-care weekly, before we even feel a health issue arising, then we may get sick less often.
I try to give myself (and my daughter) an oil massage at least once a week, usually before a shower or right before bed. It doesn’t have to take an hour, just make use of what time you have, as a little massage is better than none at all. It will move the lymph and reduce inflammation or stress. I love using various essential oils mixed with sesame or almond carrier oils.

Author: Tina Picz Devoe
Image: @penelopedullaghan

On Getting Comfy with Uncertainty: 7 Ways to Embrace the Not-Knowing.





“Not-knowing is true knowledge. Presuming to know is a disease.” ~ Lao Tzu

Let’s be honest: uncertainty is nobody’s cup of tea.

We allow it to cause both suffering and anxiety. At times, it can feel like our greatest enemy.
Living with uncertainty feels uncomfortable, like that sensation you get when an episode of your favorite series ends and you become anxious to know what will happen next.
This is how our lives often feel, except way more disturbing than a television show. We can’t download “tomorrow” or wait for 8 p.m. to figure out how it all ends—our lives require patience.
Uncertainty is especially upsetting during rough times. Maybe our relationship is on the verge of collapsing, a family member is ill, or our financial situation is unstable. And sometimes, even when our life seems perfectly okay, uncertainty keeps pinching us as if to ask, “Why am I not bothering you? Am I bothering you now? Should I pinch harder?”
Why are we so uncomfortable with uncertainty?
Simply because the unexpected terrifies us—we don’t know how to navigate through it. When we’re faced with the unknown, our current situation and emotions—the life we’re attached to—becomes threatened.
We then feel the need to do something, anything, to change the crazy way that life works. Our ego can’t rationalize the fact that some things are beyond our control. Hence, it craves security and tries its best to create it and maintain it. But in reality, we’re only creating a new illusion that will disappoint us.

Here are a few thoughts that can help us embrace the not-knowing:

1. Creating security won’t stop the unknown from manifesting.
Security is the weapon with which we fight uncertainty. We stop entering relationships to avoid heartbreak, we only fly in good weather so our plane won’t crash, or we apply anti-aging creams to prevent getting older. The reality is there’s nothing we can do to stop uncertainty—anything can happen. The causes and conditions of life are stronger than any of us.
2. This doesn’t mean we shouldn’t take action.
I like to compare uncertainty to the bus we take to work each day. Maybe the bus makes a weird noise or the driver drives a little crazy. However, we have no other choice but to take it because it’s our only means of transportation. So start that new relationship, fly in any weather, and embrace old age. We’re meant to ride with uncertainty and not resign from it. Expose yourself to the unknown and allow yourself to be part of it.
3. And this, my dear, requires faith.
Faith in God, in the universe, in the unknown, in yourself—regardless of how you practice it, faith is essential. If we don’t have faith, we’ll never get on that bus. We’ll miss our destination because we’re concerned about the “what if.” We must trust that whatever happens was going to happen anyway, even if we did try to intervene.
4. Life is such.
In the song “Ironic,” Alanis Morissette sings, “Well life has a funny way of sneaking up on you when you think everything’s okay and everything’s going right. And life has a funny way of helping you out when you think everything’s gone wrong and everything blows up in your face.”
It’s true. This is life, and the fact that uncertainty exists means there’s nothing to fear. I’ve learned that it makes more sense to be scared of what we, as humans, create—like atomic bombs—than to be scared of what the universe has created. Whatever naturally exists in life comes from an intelligent source that is never wrong. There’s a natural flow that we are built to handle, if only we’d stop letting our mind convince us otherwise.
5. So how do we learn patience?
Pema Chödrön says, “Patience is not learned in safety.” We only learn to be patient when we leap into uncertainty. Impatience only causes us more anxiety. No matter how hard we try to know something, we won’t know it until it comes.
Remain present in your body and mind. There is no future—just a constant set of “nows.” This very moment is the future and, simultaneously, the past. So basically, what we’re scared of can’t exist unless we keep it in the present moment.
6. Start now.
Change your perspective on uncertainty. Instead of creating an enemy out of it, create a friend. When I was a kid, I loved to buy Kinder Eggs, a candy with a surprise inside. I couldn’t wait to get home and see what was there for me. Life should be just like a big Kinder Egg—we need to let the uncertainty excite us.
7. Understand the difference.
There are some things in life that we can control and others that we can’t. Know the difference. For instance, we can be careful while driving but we can’t completely prevent an accident—someone could crash into the back of our car. We can, and should, take action, but always with the knowledge that uncertainty is all around. Don’t be mad at life for what you can’t control. Instead, shift your focus to what you can control.
Be prepared for all sorts of scenarios. And remember the saying, “Hope for the best but prepare for the worst.”
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Author: Elyane Youssef
Image: Esra Erben/Flickr

The Quote




Patience is not simply the ability to wait - it's how we behave while we're waiting.  Joyce Meyer

Tuesday, 30 January 2018

Greet The Day

IT'S NOT ALWAYS A WALK IN THE PARK, BUT IT'S NEVER DULL.

I went to the other extreme in early sobriety, always having to make the day be a certain way. And then I figured out that being open and curious and spontaneous was a pretty fun way to go through life.

We don't always have to work so hard to shape and direct the day. Instead, greet the day with curiosity, fully open to what it might bring. My life in addiction was very routine: get up, get high, try to make it through the day without anyone getting in my way, black out, pass out, wake up, do it again. What passed for fun were the people, places, and things I set up to support that routine. It was a chore: a sometimes boring, but mostly frightening chore.

On this day of your life



I believe God wants you to know ...

... that life is about your soul, not about your body and
not about your mind.

Most people work hard to keep the body happy. Then
they seek to stimulate their mind. Then...if there is time...
they look after their soul. Yet the most beneficial priority
has it just the other way around.

When was the last time you paid attention to your soul?

We Are Beings of Light (OM)




It is through our connection to our light that we know things beyond what the visible world can tell us.


We are all beings of light. Put another way, we are spiritual beings having a human experience. As children, most of us know this, but other human beings who have forgotten what they really are and who cannot help us to know ourselves train us to forget. As a result, we are led to believe that magic is not real, that our invisible playmates do not really exist, and that we are limited beings with only one earthly life to live. There is enormous pressure to conform to this concept of ourselves and so we lose touch with our full potential, forgetting that we are beings of light.

At this time, many of us are reawakening to the truth of who we are, because we are living amidst such large-scale changes in the world. We need to access this light in order to not only survive but thrive as we shift into a new order of consciousness. As the changes around us proceed in rapid progression, we will want to be able to trust our own ability to sense what is happening and how we can best respond. We are no longer living in a predictable world in which we can trust external authority figures and prior ideas about reality to guide us. We need to be able to access the information that will help us navigate these uncertain waters, and the ultimate authority resides in our awareness of ourselves as beings of light.

It is through our connection to this light that we know things beyond what the visible world can tell us, and we see things beyond what the physical world reveals. In order to access this wisdom, we can simply allow ourselves to remember that we are not limited, as we have been taught. In fact, we are filled with divine grace and power that is ours for the asking. A daily practice of tuning into this vast potential, conversing with it, and offering ourselves up to it opens the door through which we can reclaim our true identity, taking ownership of the calling that the time has come to create bliss on earth.

This “Tactile Meditation” uses Neuroplasticity to Improve our Parenting Skills.


Via Ian Faulkner

When my wife Barbara was pregnant with our only child, we decided that I was to be the “birth coach.”

I began to learn Trager Bodywork in an effort to prepare.
At the time I was not very heart-centered at all, and in fact many thought that I suffered from Asperger Syndrome, a type of autism that affects social interactions
Learning Trager Bodywork proved to be an excellent skill for birth coaching. I ended up continuing my studies and becoming a licensed practitioner. As my skills in bodywork improved, the apparent symptoms of Asperger faded, and I felt my heart opening.
I learned that through developing a dramatically improved sense of touch, mothers and fathers can become more effective at tending to their children’s needs. Trager helped me with this, but massage, cranio-sacral work, reiki, and other manual practices can also help in this capacity.
But the thing that really awakened the connection between my heart and my hands was a later discovery: “tactile meditation.” This is a simple touch enhancing exercise specifically for the hands that was invented by Dr. Betty Martin, a retired Chiropractor from Seattle. It makes use of neuroplasticity to improve the sense of touch—and, in retrospect, I believe it would have helped me to be a better father!
Dr. Martin calls it the “hands exercise,” and through building more neural connections to the fingers, it improves our sense of touch. This has the potential to make parents, bodywork therapists, and other caregivers more effective. The exercise involves simply spending five minutes a day feeling objects such as pillows, stones, shells, or anything with an unusual texture, with the emphasis being on how exactly we sit and touch the objects.

This first video describes the exercise with detail and precision:

This second video explains the neurology of why it works:


Within just a few days, we can notice the sensitivity and quality of our touch improving; within a month, that improvement will be drastic! Many people experience tears of joy at discovering how pleasurable a truly developed sense of touch feels. It opens the heart to touch people with such a heightened and empathetic touch—an excellent skill for parenting.
Please share with friends who are parents or caregivers of any kind. It can improve tactile communication through the hands in any context. Don’t be fooled by how simple it looks. The effects of the above exercise are truly magical!
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Author: Ian Faulkner
Image: Alexa Mazzarello/Unsplash