A few days ago I launched a very special series called The Once Broken and Homeless Man Who Brought The Thriver Model To Life.
Within this series we are tackling, in my humble opinion, the most vital 5 Core Human Beliefs that plague mankind.
These beliefs are fundamental, and working with them is not glib!
Because they ARE the difference between separation and unity and fear and love.
These Beliefs are devastating.
They keep us out in the cold, fearing that we are defective, unlovable and that life doesn’t support us … and …
They keep us separated from our Highest and Truest Self.
In order to identify, break down and reprogram these 5 key Core Human Beliefs, I am taking you through a thorough yet extremely rewarding exercise (which is very similar to what I offer in my Programs), to allow you to break down these 5 Core Beliefs in record time.
And as an extra incentive to take part, the MTE team will be drawing 5 people who may choose any MTE course for FREE (valued at up to $225).
So far the results have been amazing, the responses the MTE team and myself have received from Part Two have been nothing short of mind blowing.
People are already reporting hugely different feelings in their body compared to what their previous painful Beliefs were generating – and real Life breakthroughs that are happening very quickly and often instantly.
Okay … please make yourself a nice cup of something and settle in, because we have a LOT of understandings and material to work through in Part Three of this series.
Soooo …. Let’s get started!
But before we do … I want to let you know that the momentum is building for Neale Donald Walsch’s Masterclass.
So many people from our wonderful Thriver Community, as well as Spiritual and Relationship Communities from all over the World, have registered for his upcoming event.
This is such an indication of the movement in our world away from the old paradigms and into the new ones, and just how much humanity is SHIFTING toward realities that are so much more loving, connected, joyful and Life-affirming.
I just LOVE that there is a such a movement away from separation and all the pain … we truly are coming together.
And this shift of “togetherness” need to happen within our Own Being FIRST, because then we start expressing and creating what a “together” person does.
More togetherness.
Ok … so now that that’s done, lets start our dive inwards … because I am so excited to tackle these NEXT Three Human Core Beliefs with you.
And, after you’ve done the workshopping in this article, please remember to post the answers to the 3 questions at the end of this article, and the 2 questions from the previous article to go into a draw at the end of next week, whereby 5 people will be drawn to receive a FREE MTE Course of their choice valued up to $225.00.
Now … lets get down to business and start unravelling and healing from the painful restrictions that Core Belief Number 3 has held is in.
Core Belief Number Three: Behaviours are Created by Belief, and the Only Way to Change Behaviour is to Change the Core Belief
Resurrecting Core Belief Number 3 is Life Changing and the Ultimate Belief to accept if we wish to be the Master of our Life instead of the Victim of it.
The truth is … we ALL want to change aspects of our life that are painful and are not working for us, and when we stop trying to change “what has happened” and “things and people” and rather change our own Inner Identity powerfully in order to generate a different reality …
… THEN we find that everything changes.
There’s also something else that we notice.
This … that all the previous struggling and fighting with things, people and ourselves DROPS away.
Change starts becoming effortless and just falls into place.
Why?
Because Our Being came into alignment with being the change we seek. And when we create change at that Quantum Level we can throw away FOREVER the notion that extreme struggle, pain and willpower is necessary in order to change.
Because it isn’t.
In fact, when we change ourselves at the level of Belief we find that we simply and organically are “changed”.
Life is NOT meant to be a battle, it is meant to be a natural, holistic outpour of Who We Are Being. (It actually always is.)
Therefore once you start working on your level of “Beingness”, you will experience breakthroughs, success and new life trajectories with ease … ones that you NEVER had access to before this time.
The entire key of Belief Number 3 is this understanding …
Our “doing” and “experiencing” is ALL coming from our “being”.
“There are those who say that seeing is believing. I am telling you that believing is seeing.”
― Neale Donald Walsch, Home with God: In a Life That Never Ends
Yet, within our normal human experience we were not taught to course correct at the level of Belief.
The thinking that we can create change by focusing on changing behaviour, is one of the most futile false premises of the Human Condition.
(This is a powerful and interesting topic … oh so interesting!)
When we look at this DEEPLY we can see how insane the notion and how painful and victimizing it is, when we focus on trying to change our own or anyone else’s painful behavior without addressing belief.
In my previous Life there were really serious issues I had tried hard to address for decades.
Namely “addictions”.
Anything that made me feel “good” I wanted more of.
Food, alcohol, work, cigarettes … (just to name a few) … but really anything that gave me a “high”.
It wasn’t until I did the deep Inner Journey of addressing my subconscious programming and up-leveled it (so much Inner Wisdom comes when we do this) that I realized the UTTER TRUTH – that NO psychologist, counsellor, therapist, book, seminar or workshop had ever told me.
This …
The things that I got addicted to, that I thought felt “good”, were things that were REALLY just taking away me away from the anxiety and depressions I was constantly in (as my normal) as a result of the inner traumas in my body that I had not as yet attended to.
Meaning “addictions” for a moment were distracting me from being with myself.
What was really the issue was this: my inner traumas causing me to be anxious and depressed.
The “addictions” were SIMPLY the symptom – whatever choice I was choosing in that moment of inner pain to self-medicate with.
The massive issue I was having, with trying to stop doing self-annihilating addictions, was that I was trying to address myself at the level of behavior with NO success.
Thus my attempts to stop “addictions” failed. Even though I stopped regular excessive drinking I swapped alcoholism for severe nicotine addiction combined with workaholism, as well as a bunch of other obsessive / compulsive behaviors.
Self-development and spirituality also became a huge addiction.
I was constantly meditating, reading books, getting healings and doing seminars, but hadn’t realized WHY every time I stopped doing it (even for a very short time) that I was again engulfed with depression and anxiety.
Because trauma and painful Beliefs were still wedged in my Being, deep in my subconscious – they had never been released and were still generating anxiety and depression.
Could I just BE healthy?
No!
My Inner Wounds would frantically scream, as soon as the distractions weren’t happening, “Will you PLLLEEEAASSSSEEE just turn inside and come to me and heal me??”
But I didn’t … I still kept trying to “put ice-cream on top of poop”!!
It wasn’t until my final breakdown on my bathroom floor … when Life had finally checkmated me with no-where to go … that I realized the TRUTH.
Turn inwards …
Meet self …
Self-partner …
I knew, in the most blinding clarity I had ever received, that I needed to stop running, stop self-avoiding and self-medicating and instead turn inwards to face and heal every inner anxiety (trauma and false belief) that were destroying me and which had caused me to run from myself and destroy myself even more.
It took 18 months to find out how to heal the inner trauma for real, and when I had the formula … this was my Lifetime dedication:
Every time I felt a trigger of anxiety or depression or an urge of feeling compulsive about WANTING something … I went in my body and found the trauma that was behind it all, loaded it up in my body with Quanta Freedom Healing, spiraled the trauma and all its associated energy out and brought in my Higher Self Healing.
One by one by one the traumas dissolved.
My addictions disappeared literally overnight.
My hardest addiction to quit was smoking; I was a chain smoker and had been for 31 years.
Once I addressed the traumas of feeling “alone’ and “unsupported” and wanting a cigarette in my mouth (a comforter) to have a connection to “something” in these times … in 2 days times I had kicked cigarettes for good – with NO cravings.
I had been “giving up smoking” every other week, by trying to address “behavior” for the last 15 years. Yet, by working at tracking the trauma through my body and getting to the CAUSE (the actual trauma and beliefs), I was cured within 2 days with no aftereffects – not even physical ones.
When we realize the problem actually has nothing to do with the addiction (because that is only a choice of self-medication), we stop focusing on trying to battle the surface level symptom, and rather we focus on dismantling and healing the faulty beliefs underneath it which are the true cause.
Then, when we no longer hold the trauma in our body, it is unthinkable to do the compulsive act that we were self-medicating with – it just isn’t a match for us anymore.
Naturally, not all painful, devastating or destructive behavior needs to fall under the banner of “addictions”, yet truly all “acting out” in non-holistic ways (that do not create Love and Unity Consciousness) are reactions to programming and or trauma.
Let’s have a look at these examples:
How on earth could a mother be happy about her child being groomed from an early age to be a suicide bomber?
There is only ONE answer for that …
She has been programmed by her race and culture to believe that this is a highly prestigious and religiously rewarded act for her child, herself, her family and her country.
Without that programming, knowing your child was going to blow himself up is UNTHINKABLE to any parent – let alone being happy about it.
I wanted to use an example this extreme to wake you up – because we all need to understand HOW belief affects behavior if we want to stop being victims and if we want to change our personal and collective experience.
Unthinkable thing happens in our world every second.
We have, all ourselves, at times done unthinkable things, and we have all, somewhere in our life received and experienced other’s behavior in unthinkable ways.
(Isn’t that the truth in this Community because we have been narcissistically abused?)
This is where we need to understand there is not one thing that ANY person EVER does that is not a direct match for their belief systems on that particular subject in that moment.
“No one does anything inappropriate, given their model of the world.”
― Neale Donald Walsch
Think when you have been triggered and another part of you TOOK OVER and you acted in ways that were not your Highest and Best Self.
Please accept this next example … and even though it is quite shocking, it is really important to understand the truth here.
And we can even start to have compassion (which is so necessary for us and our world is to heal) in regard to how damaging and destructive the impregnation of traumatic beliefs can be.
And … how it INFECTS individuals and humanity profoundly.
Someone who can sexually abuse defenseless others was generally sexually abused as a child themselves. These people carry shame and feelings of being “dirty and sexually soiled” and that they are somehow “evil”.
(Interestingly this is exactly the same wounds that the person who abused them was carrying at the time of them being violated.)
This is the Psychic Virus (abuse) that destroys generations, religions and races – truly I can’t tell you how many people from Ireland I have treated with generational incest and institutionalization.
How can we stop the contamination and the spread of the effects of abuse?
the only way is this: people who are infected with the virus cleaning up their Inner Identities – getting the trauma and toxicity out of their Being and opening up the space for their organic True Self to fill them.
Then they will NOT stay stuck in or act out the trauma on themselves as victims, or their offspring or other humans as perpetrators.
In other words, Healing For Real the traumas and devastating Belief Systems in their Inner Beings.
That is how we heal the Human Condition – one person at a time.
And the only person we can ever heal is ourselves – period.
We can break the cycle within ourselves – in regard to all abuse, fear, depression, and anxiety, and break free from the infections that are NOT our True Self.
This will never happen when we are focused on punishing and trying to reform behaviour.
Look at our world for the clear evidence of how effective that has been.
Totally NOT.
When we understand that we need to change behavior at the level of belief we can understand this …
Will power is often ineffective.
This is why you can’t stop yourself eating chocolate cake when you know it doesn’t serve you – or motivate yourself to go to gym even though you would dearly love to lose 20 pounds.
Or … why you can’t bring yourself to say sorry to certain people when you know it is the right thing to do.
Or … why you are terrified to study for a better job.
Or … why you don’t have a conversation with a loved one about what is bothering you.
The list goes on and on ….
Trying to just force yourself to behave differently without addressing the reason why you are behaving the way you are is pointless.
Because at the level of Belief your Inner Identity for some reason is not allowing you to do it.
In the case of eating things you shouldn’t and not exercising – you may have received these messages when you were young … the painful words that embedded within as a part of your Inner Identity.
You’re fat, you need to lose weight.
This was trauma … you felt unworthy to be loved. You felt rejected.
That inner program has become “your truth” and your will power has no ability to override it, and can’t until that trauma is released and there is the space inside you to be reprogrammed with something different.
The same applies for every behavior you can’t JUST change. There is either intense programming – cultural, religious, generational, familial, or / and there is trauma involved.
Can you imagine having a conversation with a mother who is proud of her child who will one day blow themselves up, or a pedophile and tell them why this shouldn’t happen and think they WOULD agree with you?
What they are doing is not logically able to be addressed; it is deeply ingrained Emotional Beliefs that are generating the behavior.
Can you understand now WHY the persistent habits in your Life such as smoking, over-eating, lack of looking after yourself, fear of stepping out of comfort zones, handing your power over to others (even when they continue to hurt you) etc. etc. etc. is so hard to change when you are merely trying to address it with “information” and “logic”?
I hope so … because nothing less than transformation of your Inner Identity Belief Systems will cut it.
And we all have no idea what it is that we need to transform until we come inside, self-partner and create a relationship with our Inner Being to find out.
No outer person (not even a psychologist) can grant you the truth that ONLY your Inner Being knows.
(Personal transformation is called “personal transformation” for a very good reason, because it is between your Inner Being and you.)
Only the tiniest percentage of humankind is living anywhere near their full potential, because the majority are not changing and developing themselves at the Level of Belief.
Narcissists and perpetual victims never get better because they refuse to self-partner or stop holding everything and everyone else responsible.
So are you ready… to really change your life by addressing yourself at the level of Belief?
If your answer is “Yes”, then let’s DO it!
WORKSHOP EXERCISES
(Important message) *** Please note you may need to only work one incident / emotion / belief through to conclusion – to REALLY do it thoroughly and have time to answer the questions on the blog in time.
You can go back to this template to keep working on all the other False Beliefs you unearth at any time afterwards!
If you are a NARP Member, there is no need to work through Questions 1-6 (unless you choose to) and then instead of working with number 7 go to the exercise underneath it.
Soooo, here we go!! Let’s get started!
1) Take out your journal and ask yourself what are the behaviours you know you do that you MOST struggle with.
List these incidents.
Such as:
“Being hard on myself”, “Seeking other people to look after me and not looking after myself”, “Trying to force people to love me”, Having the addiction to (whatever it is).”
2) Go deeply into a “scene” in your imagination about these incidences. Don’t write about it just imagine it.
Then close your eyes and take your attention inside yourself.
Then feel WHERE in your body you can feel the energy of the trauma (the painful feeling).
(In the case of an addiction, Imagine the “urge” to do the addiction, then not giving into doing the addiction and the feelings that would come up for you as a result.)
It may be in your heart, your solar plexus or maybe your shoulders (it could be anywhere). The energy could be so big that it feels like it is under your skin everywhere.
Then in your journal write out the following:
“My incident is …………….. and I feel it in this body part …………….
Then ask yourself “What do I really feel about this?” and write …
“What I deeply feel about this is …………………….”
Write as much detail as to how you feel about it, as you possibly can.
Really tap in and go for it.
Example:
“Being hard on myself” … I feel it in this body part – my solar plexus. What I deeply feel about this is – an intense inner panic, like a terrible urgency to get it done, and if I slow down or rest things will go horribly wrong etc. etc. ”
3) Then dismiss the “incident” … it’s actually NOT important, rather focus into the FEELINGS you have tapped into, because that is leading you to the Painful Core Beliefs.
List the emotions that you tapped into in Exercise 2 – because now you are going to locate the False Beliefs that are in those painful emotions.
Keep your attention inside you, because this is about connecting to what is going on in your Emotional Self (Inner Identity) and now it is time to start locating the Beliefs.
Deeply breathe and imagine having your body open (so that you can access Infinite Inner Wisdom) and ask yourself “What is the False Belief(s)?”
Example:
Emotionaaaaaaaaaaaaa False Belief(s)
“I feel panicked” aaaaaaaaa“If I don’t succeed I’ll die”
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa“It’s all up to me to get it done”
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa“No-one supports me, I only have myself to rely on.”
“I feel urgency”aaaaaaaaaaa“If I don’t get it done now, it will be too late”
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa “Time is running out
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa“I can’t survive – its hopeless.
etc. etc. etc.
4) After working through your list to find the False Beliefs, emotionally check into them. Rate each one out of /10.
This is in regard to how powerfully (or not) you can feel the energy of the emotion in your body. A 1/10 would be “I barely feel it”, a 10/10 would be “This is hugely painful for me.”
Example:
Emotionaaaaaaaaaaaaa False Belief(s)——————————————–Rating
“I feel panicked” aaaaaaaaa“If I don’t succeed I’ll die”——————————— –10/10
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa“It’s all up to me to get it done”—————————- –9/10
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa“No-one supports me, I only have myself to rely on.”—-10/10
“I feel urgency”aaaaaaaaaaa“If I don’t get it done now, it will be too late”———— – 9/10
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa “Time is running out.”———————————– —10/10
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa“I can’t survive – its hopeless.”————————- —10/10
etc. etc. etc.
The ones with the most energy are the ones with the biggest charge.
THESE are the ones that have the greatest hold over you, and are the ones that are continually re-appearing as REAL EVIDENCE in your Life confirming the validity of the Belief – until reprogrammed.
5) Now that you have had an INCREDIBLE awakening in regard to what has been REALLY going on inside you, ask you Inner Being (with your eyes closed) “What are the defenses I have been using to try to protect myself from getting more hurt in regard to my painful beliefs?”
And know that this is about identifying EXACTLY how you have been showing up in ways that help generate the painful belief!
Example:
I can’t sit still, or ever relax without having incredible feelings of burden, responsibility and guilt. The only time I ever tune out is when I am asleep or under the influence of alcohol.
If I do anything nice for myself I punish myself twice as hard with work and / or exercise afterwards.
I refuse many social engagements.
I don’t accept people’s help when they offer it, because I am terrified they wont do it right, or what they will hold over me if I do accept.
I expect people NOT to support me and don’t even give them a chance to.
I constantly tell myself “I don’t have enough time.”
I push myself even when I am exhausted, and I don’t listen to my body telling me to slow down.
6) Now for every realization regarding how you have been showing up – ask your Inner Being “the age” of this part
This is where you need to tap in and ask yourself, How old is this part of me?
This is about understanding that our original traumas came from our childhood. No parents were perfect, and in the cases when they were emotionally absent, neglectful, engulfing or abusive they were acting out from their own traumas and painful Core Beliefs that they took on from their parents.
We were negatively programmed in so many ways – often we have trauma DNA (epigenetics proves this now) that is a part of our Being from the moment of conception, and then what is likely is we are born into an environment where that same trauma pattern plays out.
The problem is, when unresolved, this trauma then repeats in our adult life, until it is reprogrammed (which is EXACTLY what we are working on today!).
Sooo, in regard to the age, we are generally looking for a young part of self … and it will come as an intuitive message – a gut feeling, a flash of a number … or a memory that pops up.
Just trust …
If a number doesn’t come, and especially if this part of you feels like it was always there,then write “ancient”.
You were born with this … it was in your DNA even before you were born.
Example:
I can’t sit still, or ever relax without having incredible feelings of burden, responsibility and guilt. The only time I ever tune out is when I am asleep or under the influence of alcohol (This part of me is 2.)
If I do anything nice for myself I punish myself twice as hard with work and / or exercise afterwards (This part of me is 5.)
I refuse many social engagements. (This part of me is 1.)
I don’t accept people’s help when they offer it, because I am terrified they won’t do it right, or what they will hold over me if I do accept. (This part of me is ancient.)
I expect people NOT to support me and don’t even give them a chance to. (This part of me is ancient.)
I constantly tell myself “I don’t have enough time.” (This part of me is ancient.)
I push myself even when I am exhausted, I don’t listen to my body telling me to slow down. (This part of me is 4.)
7) Use the following prayer to create a shift for these parts of Your Inner Being. Whilst doing so imagine holding this part, freeing him or her of the trauma and replacing the trauma with his or her True Self.
In this part of the “shift” we are working with Quantum Reality … meaning we don’t need to “work this out” or even “change how we think about it”.
What we HAVE done is identified the ENERGY of the trauma and Painful Belief in our being, and now we are going to shift it out and replace it.
This is soul-level work that has so much more power than what we can ever achieve cognitively.
When we get a body shift then our brain automatically follows, and that is what we seek. The old paradigms of trying to get the brain to change in our to create Inner Identity shirt regurgitate the pain and “what happened” over and over again and usually completely ineffective for extreme trauma. In fact, OFTEN it creates more damage and more cementing of victimization than good.
Hence why we need a Healing System and Path that really works.
Here is the prayer:
“Dearly beloved (age) part of me. I now grant you permission to release the traumas and faulty beliefs that you took on that were never yours to begin with.
I ask yours and my Higher Self and Power to take these away, and dissolve these into the native nothingness that they truly are.
I ask for both of our Higher Power to open up the space where these traumas and beliefs once were and to fill them with Light – the Light of our True Self who knows the Resolution and Truth on these Topics.
And so it is.
Amen.”
This prayer is powerful if you do a visualization with it (whatever feels right for you for each component.)
Such as “seeing” the junk being released, taken away and dissolved, space opening up in the cells of your body and Light filling then from above.
Now the instructions for NARP Members regarding the “shift” itself.
Use the Goal Setting Module and set up “The Source Healing and Resolution of This” as your goal … in regard to the Behaviours you want to stop doing.
(In the case of an addiction, imagine the “urge” to do the addiction, then not giving into doing the addiction and the feelings that would come up for you as a result.)
Target these, one at a time, in your body (the hurt and pain of these behaviours) and track to origin and clear with the QFH process until you reach a 10/10.
Naturally start with the behaviours that you know are affecting you now – the ones that are sabotaging your life the most.
When we work on ourselves at the Level of Belief, this may seem like a lot of work, but can you IMAGINE what your Life will look like when you organically BECOME the changes you seek?
Peaceful, effortless, healthy, successful … and most of all self-loving.
This stuff is HUGE … truly …
Okay now lets get onto Core Belief Number 4..
This one is big!
It’s a true Quantum Leap
Core Belief Number Four: “I Only Send You Angels”
As I stated in Part One, this was the incredibly profound quote from Neale Donald Walsh which led me to adopt the expression A.I.D.s (Angels In Disguise), meaning that everyone we encounter is a Soul Contract to assist our soul’s agenda of personal and collective evolution.
This is the belief that people who believe I “victim bash” and don’t focus enough on holding perpetrators accountable, struggle the most to accept.
I understand, because I used to feel totally the same way.
Once upon a time there was no way I believed anything about myself “caused” my abuse … and heaven help anyone that suggested there was anything about me that I needed to look at.
As far as I was concerned, I was an honest, good woman who got taken down by a horrible sociopath.
And that would have all been good and well if I could have held onto those beliefs, moved on and had a Great Life.
But I couldn’t.
If I hadn’t let those beliefs go, I would have gone to my grave with them, at the age of forty.
And in my awakening, rather than having the experience of blaming myself, (I am so adamantly opposed to the concept of “blame”!) rather I had this total knowing: this journey with him was to do with my unconscious wounds that I had taken on from my ancestral DNA and childhood.
These wounds I had carried ALL my life (in fact many lifetimes).
And … I had suffered disappointments regarding them for years. But before, because I was “stubborn” and “tough”, I could get up and carry on again.
But … this time had landed me at the make or break experience … of
… evolve or dissolve.
At soul level I had chosen all of this perfectly for the purpose of freeing myself from my traumas and limiting beliefs … and (as I know many of you doing the same soul work understand) and also doing that (humbly) for the collective.
All the choices I had made (including the rubbish ones) had perfectly set up this moment of time of complete and utter breakdown to FINALLY get done what I had come to do.
Thank God this time I got it!
And I knew with every fabric of my Being that if the narcissist had not come along to smash me to the point of near extinction with my own wounds, then someone else would have needed to do it.
I had received “mini versions” before – signposts. But I missed them.
I needed the whopping great billboard.
I knew, even before I had recovered, that what had happened was the grandest opportunity to NOW focus fully on myself and release myself from my own limitations and wounds that had NEVER allowed me to truly be free, happy and alive (regardless of the incredible achievements I had achieved).
Because nothing less would ever truly gratify my Soul (meaning the Real Me!).
My previous life had been so conditional.
I was only ever as good as my last achievement, and my entire life in-between “success” was fraught with anxiety and depression, because even when I achieved something my emotional state was so precariously poised on having it – that I would be terrified of losing it.
I never felt I had enough security, safety and love … and often as a result I would push it away, sabotage myself and always have to put out fires to try and stop my greatest fears erupting – which of course they always did!
And this was my “normal”… I was, like so many others, entrenched in a Life of Survival, on a hamster wheel that was shredding my Life-force with no way off.
Only changing myself at the level of Beingness could end the nightmare … and for the first time of my life I was forced to attend to my Beingness because there was nowhere else left to go.
Thank God I got hit that HARD.
With what I know now, and how I am now a completely different being than I was before narcissistic abuse – I would have paid millions for the experience.
(In fact in many ways I did, and every bit of it was worth it.)
Now … here is the huge bit …
At the level of personality, I acknowledge both the narcissists in my Life were very unconscious, traumatized, unhealthy and sick human beings – who are totally unaware and in no way would wish to have granted me the incredible gifts I receive via them.
And truly, at the personality level – I have no connection with them, no desire to, and couldn’t frankly care less about anything they think – because these men are Not My Reality in any shape or form.
However … at Soul level – Soul to Soul – I am CRAZILY grateful.
Because what is the greatest gift one Soul could grant another?
I believe it is this …
Giving someone back to loving themself.
This is why I see these Soul Contracts as A.I.D.s.
These men allowed me to break through my own barriers to self that no-other human beings had forced me to do …
Where would I be now without that?
I shudder to think.
And my beliefs have NOT let these men off the hook!! I am not glorifying them!!!
This was not about “granting them anything” it was a GIFT to myself!!!
“The way to move out of judgement is to move into gratitude”
― Neale Donald Walsch
I had set myself free to the level where I could stop being a victim, stop feeding them power, stop making narcissists important by holding them responsible for my wounds … and be able to release all hooks, obsession, pain and trauma that was keeping me trapped in the AGONY of wanting the accountability from their maladapted personalities that was NEVER going to come …
(This is what people wanting to stay stuck in Standard Victimisation and “holding abusers accountable” don’t understand!)
Also … as a result of evolving myself beyond abuse with immense gratitude to take on the development and expansion of my Own Being, I was in a position to help others get out of the literal and emotional clutches of narcissistic abuse and also evolve themselves to a level whereby they would never be narcissistic supply again.
The Thriver Promise is also so much more than that … it allows individuals to generate the MOST incredible lives they ever imagined possible.
When we reach the Ultimate Quantum Breakthrough of no longer holding people responsible for granting us the love, approval, survival and security that as adults we are not as yet generating for ourselves … we realise what this was really about.
It was about coming home to ourselves … our own Higher Power and becoming a self generative force working in with the organic wellbeing of Life, instead of being separated from it.
When we come home to ourselves, we can directly partner with God / Source, Existence and Life …. that is where our divinity and nirvana is … it is NOT through False Substitutes … which is what we assigned narcissists as.
The Highest Level of Divine Forgiveness is this:
There is actually nothing to forgive, because this wasn’t even about you, you were merely a catalyst … it was always about me and my freedom from myself.
And … Life is happening FOR me and not TO me.
WORKSHOP EXERCISES
(Important message) *** Please note you will need to possibly only work one incident / emotion / belief through to conclusion – to REALLY do it thoroughly and have time to answer the questions on the blog in time.
You can go back to this template to keep working on all the False Beliefs you unearth at any time afterwards!
If you are a NARP Member simply go to the exercise after Exercise 7, there is no need to process through exercise 1-7 (However if you wish to you may).
Okay this is simple … we repeat the process.
All you need to do is go to the questions 1- 7 above and start off with Question 1) “Take out your journal and ask yourself what are the times when you personally felt “you could not forgive someone or yourself for something?”
And then simply follow the instructions on this Core Belief all the way through to Question 7.
Now … here are the instructions for NARP Members regarding these shifts:
Use the Goal Setting Module and set up “The Source Healing and Resolution of This” as your goal … in regard to whichever person or yourself who you have not been able to forgive.
Target the charges of not being able to forgive in your body and track to origin and clear with the QFH process until you reach a 10/10.
I promise you … as a result of transcending resentment, hurt, regret and all the other limiting human emotions which energetically create a Field of continuing to experience more of the same … you will break free.
Also, you will see how Life arranges to bring justice and truth as the organic system it is, when we are no longer trapped in our victimized feelings.
Let’s now go deeply into Core Belief Number Five which is really an extension of Core Belief Number Four.
Core Belief Number Five: There is a Divine Purpose Behind Everything and Therefore a Divine Presence in Everything
“There is no coincidence in the universe—only a grand design; an incredible ‘snowflake’.”
― Neale Donald Walsch, The Complete Conversations with God
When we understand that Life is happening for us and not to us, this opens us up to an incredible level of depth, whereby we leave behind stuck victimization and start developing as per the feedback Life grants us.
This allows us to take notice, self-partner deeply… in order to create an incredibly solid self-relationship … course correct with up-levelling, and use our Life Experience as the constant Training Ground to joyfully and joyously grow, develop, expand, experience and NOT get stuck in repeat cycles because we’re not getting the message.
Which is no fun at all.
Boy, did I used to be the perpetual victim!
I was one of those passive aggressive (and sometimes not so passive) people who used to whine, complain, point the finger and righteously declare constantly how I was not happy about this and how I was not happy about that.
And, of course my Life was full of “things going wrong.”
My attitude now regarding “things going wrong” is to always to deeply connect to What’s the gift in this? … and because of this orientation I get granted the gift regularly and very few things go “wrong”.
Rather than being the utter control freak I used to be, I now love flowing with “curve balls” … because I know the Universe is rearranging to create even greater outcomes for me (which always happens).
But it’s not like we can just flick a switch to get there.
We don’t just wake up one day and say, “Ok Beliefs – you are now set on the dial of forme and not against me .. and now nothing “bad” will ever happen again.”
Nope … sorry! That is not how Soul Evolution is granted!
We need to walk through the fire. We need to transcend. We need to graduate.
We need to embrace and experience the “bad” and wake up to realize what spiritual personal responsibility really means.
It means being self-partnered, awake and having a relationship with your Inner Being.
Let me explain with these examples.
Laura is a Law of Attraction advocate.
She is in a supermarket and a crazy homeless man wanders in. He’s drunk and he lines her up in the isle and starts yelling abuse at her.
Laura is terrified … she runs out of the supermarket shaking.
All sorts of thoughts are going through her head, What is it about me that attracted him? Maybe I have suppressed anger still? I really need to take this to my next Law of Attraction meeting and ask people HOW on earth I attracted this experience to me.
Laura is in her head, she is not self-partnered and she has no idea that her answers and development to this are WITHIN.
Ray enters the same supermarket.
The same crazy man starts yelling abuse at him.
Ray is initially taken aback, and then notices he is not emotionally triggered. For a moment he considers trying to connect with the man, but intuitively he knows because the man is drunk it is not a good idea.
He says to the man in a firm voice “Wait right here”, turns away and goes to the front counter and informs staff and security.
Ray is self-partnered, he has worked on his own development especially regarding his traumatic past. Ray’s father was a narcissist and a drunk who was incredibly violent and abusive.
Ray for the last six months had been working on his Inner Idenitiy with Quanta Freedom Healing (the NARP Program) to release and up-level his childhood traumas of his father’s abuse.
And, as a result of the “supermarket incident”, Ray was punching the air with utter excitement and joy and gratitude that Life has just presented him with the real life evidence of his graduation from his original trauma.
Because before doing the work on his Inner Being, there is NO WAY Ray could have shown up like that.
(Rays story is a true story and the MTE team receive emails of gratitude of similar incidents every day from all over the world.)
Can you see how the jigsaw puzzle of Life does fit into place as an organic support to our evolution?
Meaning Life and God loves us so much that this unseen force wants nothing more than for us to be developed and freed into our Truest and Highest Selves.
Life is always feeding back exactly this: The evidence of your evolution (or not) on any particular topic.
“I do not show My goodness by creating only what you call perfection all around you. I do not demonstrate My love by not allowing you to demonstrate yours.”
― Neale Donald Walsch, The Complete Conversations with God
Laura had not realized that her triggers and terror were to do with her as yet unhealed wounds regarding trauma and abuse from her childhood.
She was still in her head, and still unconscious.
Ray had already awakened.
And … he HAD done the work on his.
WORKSHOP EXERCISES
(Important message) *** Please note you will need to possibly only work one incident / emotion / belief through to conclusion – to REALLY do it thoroughly and have time to answer the questions on the blog in time.
You can go back to this template to keep working on all the False Beliefs you unearth at any time afterwards!
If you are a NARP Member simply go to the exercise after Exercise 7, there is no need to process through exercise 1-7 (However if you wish to you may).
Okay this is simple … we repeat the process.
All you need to do is go to the questions 1- 7 above and start off with Question 1) “Take out your journal and ask yourself what are the times when you personally felt “I can’t accept that happened for a reason?”
And then simply follow the instructions on this Core Belief all the way through to Question 7.
Now … here are the instructions for NARP Members regarding these shifts:
Use the Goal Setting Module and set up “The Source Healing and Resolution of This” as your goal … in regard to whatever incident or situation or Life event that you can’t accept happened for a reason.
Target the charges of not being “able to accept” in your body and track to origin and clear with the QFH process until you reach a 10/10.
By shifting Core Belief Number Five through to it’s True Self state, you will have reached your graduation.
Meaning … your ability to embody “the lesson”, evolve beyond the previous level you were operating at, and eliminate the need in your Life to go through the same lesson again.
This is what True Evolution is really about.
And like Ray, you will discover, it is very, very likely that a situation will show up in your Life to grant you the incredible feedback to show you, Am I really through this one?
And this is where we can stop fearing Life, stop trying to control it or hide out from it … and most importantly STOP judging what shows up –thinking that it is anything LESS than Divine.
Because Divinity is everywhere …
And believing it isn’t means that we are living in an experience of “hell”.
“Pain results from a judgment you have made about a thing. Remove the judgment and the pain disappears.”
― Neale Donald Walsch, The Complete Conversations with God
I Hope You Enjoyed This Series!
Personally, I know the utter joy of being released from the agony of Faulty Core Beliefs in order to start generating Life and Joy at the levels that our Beings were always created to experience.
History is full of countless people who had to fight through incredible adversities, set backs, heartbreaks and devastation as well as suffering some of the worst childhood wounding, to come out the other side … to share their special gifts with the world.
MANY successful, soul-fulfilled people were not born into it.
The greatest thing that all of these people overcame – to not just merely Survive but to Thrive – was their Beliefs about themselves and Life.
The Beliefs that they had been inflicted with by their forebears, which had culminated into their Real Life experiences of pain and despair, and then the continued aftershock … until their Inner Beings shifted.
Are these people’s lives compromised of random previous events of devastation and then a fluke of luck that turned it all around for them?
Or … was it a Soul Choice, granting that person the exact grist required to evolve their Being for themselves, their future generations and humanity?
I believe with every cell within me – it was the latter.
Just as I believe, beyond doubt, that everyone who has gone through Narcissistic Abuse is being called to awaken at this level – to experience the ultimate up-levelling of their Life.
And as such … when we know these following Five things as a pure embodiment within our Being …
1) Everything and Everyone Is Connected
2) We Are Loved Simply Because We Exist
3) Change Is Created at the Level of Belief
4) Life Only Sends Angels
And …
5) Divinity Exists Everywhere …
… we truly have the formula to BE “heaven on earth” one person at a time.
And in no-way does this means we will be “fluffy”, “unprotected”, “too trusting” or “easily taken and abused” … it is in fact the EXACT opposite.
The embodiment of these beliefs mean this: we are in our body, we are self-partnered … we are no longer being a victim, we take responsibility for our own wellbeing and evolution and we know how to show up and healthily generate that with capable others.
And we bless and release and stop dancing with those who aren’t healthy – because they are no longer a match for us … because we have transcended our previous woundedness that these A.I.D.s were bringing to our attention.
Our entire world would heal if every individual took on this level of development within their Inner Being.
And I am SO passionate about doing what I can to help our world achieve it.
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