Twenty Consequences of Being a Codependent in Recovery!

My first consequence of being a codependent in recovery is: being angry at the disease and not at the addict.

My second consequence of being a codependent in recovery is: having my anger pass quicker; i.e. 2 hours versus 5 days.

My third consequence of being a codependent in recovery is: being able to sleep at night even when there is a lot going on that I found very disturbing.

My fourth consequence of being a codependent in recovery: being able to focus on the solution without angst and agitation.

My fifth consequence of being a codependent in recovery is : I can summon the courage to change things.

My sixth consequence of being a codependent in recovery is : I can have serenity to accept the things I cannot change and recognize that is part of the reality of my life.

My seventh consequence of being a codependent in recovery is : I will not ruminate about my family that is not in recovery and accept that as their choice.

My eighth consequence of being a codependent in recovery is: I can get peaceful with work, being ok with going home on time, leaving work for another day.

My ninth consequence of being a codependent in recovery: I have learned to be supportive without controlling - know when to hold them, know when to walk away, know when to run.

My tenth consequence of being a codependent in recovery: I can be patient and accept "not now".

My eleventh consequence of being a codependent in recovery: Joy beyond all joy! Self care, taking the time to use the bathroom and not being constipated! "Excuse me! Nature calls!"

My twelfth positive consequence of being a codependent in recovery: Having less anxiety, breathing more, saying STOP to the worrisome thoughts.

My thirteenth consequence of being a codependent in recovery: Going for a walk at work, using my breaks to enjoy some fresh air, some perspective and some self-care.

My fourteenth consequence of being a codependent in recovery: Having the ability to act "as if"; acting my way into a feeling that I want.

My fifteenth consequence of being a codependent in recovery: this one is beautiful - I can be here now! I can stay in the present, "I have given up all hope of having a better past", and I can tell myself to stop future tripping, Que Sera, Sera

My sixteenth consequence of being a codependent in recovery: I can enjoy being in my own lane; someone else's life is theirs to live.

My seventeenth consequence of being a codependent in recovery: I can practice daily gratitude and I have stopped those desperate prayers, pleading and crying because I know that I know that I know that when I praise, my Higher Power is able.

My eighteenth consequence of being a codependent in recovery: I can believe in progress, not perfection - it is ok to complete a project and accept it as it is and extend the same courtesy to others as works in progress.

My nineteenth consequence of being a codependent in recovery: I can have a better attitude, be more optimistic, know that in surrendering to my HP, things will work out accordingly (usually better than what I had planned) - I can be happy, joyous and free!

My twentieth consequence of being a codependent in recovery: I can actually walk past the alcohol section of a store without hatred and a terrorist attitude, wishing I had a bomb on my back to blow the bottles to smithereens.

J.Deborah - 3/17/16