Have you ever questioned why you feel the way that you do about anything in particular? And no, I’m not talking about why you think about certain things because the way you ‘should’ feel about them.
I’m talking about the feelings that you have developed from the point of view that the world has. The world has a collective mind, or the average way of thinking and feeling about something in specific and it doesn’t matter what it is.
It also doesn’t matter who it is, no matter how much of a free thinker or rebel that you believe you are. We are all conditioned and programmed certain ways in relation to the rest of the world not just of today but also going to past generations centuries upon centuries ago.
The conditioning and programming that has altered the entire chemistry and biology of your being is not something that we want to look down on. In other words the conditioning and programming is not something bad.
However, if you don’t look at where your conditionings have come from and how they have affected your soul, then it will block you off from pure peace, happiness and serenity.
It is not the conditioning and programming that blocks us off from joy, it’s the lack of awareness that you are conditioned in many ways.
It is not yet in the world consciousness to realize that it goes out of it’s way to create you into it’s own image. What we as a world think you ‘should be’.
In the ever flow of life and freedom of creativity there are no ‘should’ and ‘should not’s’.
This is the way ‘you’ should feel about something and this is the way you ‘should not’ feel about something means that if you are feeling a particular way, that you should go out of your way to neglect that feeling.
And this goes against ‘what is’ the greatest barrier between pain and peace.
The one inner body sensation that transcends all emotions from happiness, gladness, sadness, resentfulness and anger to name a few is peace.
Peace is the ability to let go of all emotions in any particular situation or circumstance you find yourself in.
“I should feel happy” all of the time is the attachment to feeling a particular way in at any point in time will cause a great deal of suffering.
It is is our very need and attachment to happiness and pleasure that causes us the emotional pain. What happens when you are kind of bummed out then?
You create another level of emotional pain because you believe that at that point in time, you should not be feeling that way.
Acceptance means that NO MATTER how you are feeling at any point in time, you are aware of it and have accepted it, with no judgement or condemnation.
The conditioning that has been hard wired into us, will begin to start believing that we should go after peace, and yet again that is the last thing we ‘should’ feel at any particular time.
Peace isn’t any particular emotional state, it is an acceptance of allowing yourself be free in whatever emotional state arises. Peace is the awareness that “I am having this emotion” and that I am accepting this emotion.
Peace is knowing that who I am really am is not the emotion but the one who notices that the emotion is happening.
On the flip side how do you truly expect to enjoy happiness if are worried about losing the pleasurable experiences that you are having?
The inner knowing that ‘This too shall pass’ allows you to enjoy the pleasurable experiences your having to a much greater extent because you’re not identified with who you are with how you are feeling.
And thus don’t rely on pleasure to make you, and on the other spectra the lack of it to break you.
If who you really are is the emotion then who are you? Are who you really are is mad, sad, angry or the other several hundred emotions that there are who ‘you’ really are?
Who you really are is not the emotion, it is the one who witnesses the emotion and even when joy, happiness and pleasure happen don’t allow yourself to be attached.
It is the very attachment to happiness, that will block you from true everlasting peace and joy.
So what is the difference between happiness and peace?
Happiness needs ‘good’ things to happen in life situationally or circumstantially and peace ‘accepts what is’ even in uncomfortable times.
It is the acceptance of ‘what is’ but is not attached to the experience that emotion is having at any particular point in time.
And this too goes for your misery. The only reason that people believe that they are happy in their misery is that they are afraid of losing who they ‘think’ that they are.
In world that says you need to BE SOMEBODY, it’s not surprising that people are afraid of losing who they are, or for that matter being someone or something created from the mind is impossible.
The thinking is what creates this “I, me or myself and is what creates the emotion but is NOT who “I” really am. I is the one who observes the thinking, observes the emotion and observes the thing we call the ‘self’.
To be somebody in rational terms is non acceptance of who and what ‘you’ really are.
So going forward you ‘should’ or ‘should not’ feel in any particular way about anything, but to understand your feelings, accept them in that present moment and know that in the wise words of Eckhart Tolle
“This too shall pass.”
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