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Conflict should
always be met with open ears and an open heart. Conflict is an unavoidable part of our
lives because our beliefs and modes of being often contrast powerfully with
those of our loved ones, acquaintances, and associates. Yet for all the grief
disagreements can cause, we can learn much from them. The manner in which we
handle ourselves when confronted with anger or argument demonstrates our
overall level of patience and the quality of our energetic states. To resolve conflict, no matter how
exasperating the disagreement at hand, we should approach our adversary with
an open heart laden with compassion. Judgments and blame must be cast aside
and replaced with mutual respect. Conflict is frequently motivated by
unspoken needs that are masked by confrontational attitudes or aggressive
behavior. When we come at a conflict with love and acceptance in our hearts,
we empower ourselves to discover a means to attaining collective resolution. The key to finding the wisdom concealed in
conflict is to ask yourself why you clash with a particular person or
situation. Your inner self or the universe may be trying to point you to a
specific life lesson, so try to keep your ears and eyes open. Once you have
explored the internal and external roots of your disagreement, make a
conscious effort to release any anger or resentment you feel. As you do so,
the energy between you and your adversary will change perceptibly, even if
they are still operating from a more limited energy state. Consider that each
of you likely has a compelling reason for thinking and feeling as you do, and
accept that you have no power to change your adversary’s mind. This can help
you approach your disagreement rationally, with a steady voice and a
willingness to compromise. If you listen thoughtfully and with an
empathetic ear during conflict, you can transform clashes into opportunities
to compromise. Examine your thoughts and feelings carefully. You may discover
stubbornness within yourself that is causing resistance or that you are
unwittingly feeding yourself negative messages about your adversary. As your
part in disagreements becomes gradually more clear, each new conflict becomes
another chance to further hone your empathy, compassion, and tolerance. |
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