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It is natural to feel resentment or
anger when life does not unfold as expected. We consciously or
unconsciously anticipated one experience, and we grieve for the loss of
it when the universe puts something else in our path. Most of the time,
we work through these feelings, and they pass. Occasionally, our anger
and resentment do not fade and are instead transformed into bitterness.
Bitter feelings allow us to become perfect victims, in that we no longer
feel obliged to work toward healing and choose instead to identify with
our pain. Yet as unwholesome as bitterness can be, it is also a natural
element of our emotional palette. When we acknowledge that it is okay to
feel bitter, we reconnect with our hurt in a constructive way and can
begin the process of working through it.
The nature of bitterness is rooted in
the fact that the pain we feel provides us with a rationale. We may feel
that we deserve to embrace our bitterness to its full extent, cutting
ourselves off from all that is positive, hardening our hearts, and vowing
never to let go of our hurt. But just as these feelings can be
self-defeating, so too can the release of bitterness be life-affirming in
a way that few other emotional experiences are. When we decide that we no
longer want to be bitter, we are reborn into a world filled with delight
and fulfillment. The veil it cast over our lives is lifted, letting light
and warmth touch our souls.
Divesting yourself of bitter feelings
can be as simple as truly forgiving and moving on. Even when your
bitterness has no concrete object, you can forgive situations too.
Healing pain can be challenging, but it may be easier if you remind
yourself that you are the only entity truly affected by your emotional
state. In time, you will discover that releasing your bitterness frees
you to initiate the healing process and allows you to once again
celebrate the wonderful life you deserve.
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