“Sanity is acceptance of human imperfection.”
I
am so grateful to CoDA.
I
had lived a life not understanding that not everyone has shame to their core.
I
had thought my childhood did not really harm me but had then spent my life
trying to prove I am worthy.
I
thought if I can be perfect then maybe I can get rid of my shame.
I
had given my higher power to my abusive father and did not know this.
A
year ago I was “over fixing” someone else thinking I was being helpful when she
said, "I think you maybe are codependent." I am so grateful to that
lady.
I
had got to the stage my life was unmanageable. The grief of endlessly trying
harder to be perfect and never succeeding was exhausting me. No matter how hard
I tried it was not working. I was worn out and this was aggravated by the fires
of last summer, Covid and several distressing family events. I have great
resilience and always 'cope' but I looked into CoDA and decided to give it a
go.
The
lady who told me about CoDA did so at the perfect time in my life when I was
ready to hear.
At
first I was sceptical about working the program.
But
I decided to have faith in the process.
One
year later I am still working the program. I am on Step 2 with my co-sponsor
but I have never found anything that has helped me so much.
I
know I will always be codependent but no longer beat myself up and shame myself
for who I am. I love myself and accept my past. I am finding I can surrender to
my new higher power and can mostly remember to do this when I most need it.
When I start over fixing that is my sign to surrender and relax into giving my
difficulties to my higher power.
Sanity
is acceptance of human imperfection. I no longer exhaust myself trying to do
the impossible and be perfect. I am having so much more fun this way. My relationships
are more fun. I can now tune into my feelings and my wants and needs.
I
am grateful to CoDA in so many ways that it would take a long essay to explain.
But
it has transformed my sense of who I am in a way counselling and trying harder
never could.
This
new understanding helps me live a fuller life. I feel excited about life and
excited about who I am and possibilities going forward.
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