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There are times when change -- moving to a new city or a new home, or
changing careers -- is the right thing at the right time. But there are also
times when the urge for change is really just a desire to run away from
problems that need to be faced rather than avoided. These are the kinds of
problems that recur in our lives. For example, issues with coworkers that
seem to arise at every job we take, or repeatedly getting into unhealthy
relationships. A move might temporarily distract us, and even cure the
problem for a time, simply by taking us out of the situation in which the
problem fully manifested itself. However, the problem will eventually appear
again in our new situation.
One way to make sure you aren’t running away from your problems is to notice
whether you are moving towards something that is exciting in its own right,
as opposed to something that is appealing only because it is not where you
are now. For example, if you are leaving a city because you feel you can’t
afford it, you could be reinforcing poverty consciousness, and you might find
that you are unable to make ends meet in your new city as well. It would
ultimately be less of an effort to stay where you are and look more deeply
into your beliefs about money. You may discover that as you address these
issues, you are able to make more money simply by changing your mindset. You
may still decide to move, but it will be an act with a positive intention
behind it and not an escape, which could make all the difference.
Any pain involved in facing our issues is well worth the effort in the end.
When we face our problems instead of avoiding them, we free our energy and
transform ourselves from people who run away into people who move
enthusiastically forward.
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