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Like the act of marriage that binds two people together, divorce is the
result of a life-altering decision. It is the dissolving of a relationship
that we believed would last our whole lives. We may not even be able to
articulate how we got to this place, yet we may also feel we have no choice
but to sever this tie. Whatever we feel, we need the support of the friends
and family who will stand by us no matter what we decide. At some point, we
may need to be challenged to look deeper inside ourselves as we make this
very important decision, but what we need most of all is unconditional love
and loyalty.
Divorce is a process that, once in motion, becomes difficult to stop, and
this can be painful if we find ourselves having second thoughts. We may feel
that we should do more to save the marriage, or we may wonder if there is
something about ourselves that we could fix or change instead of going
through with this painful separation. On the other hand, we may be seeing in
hindsight that our marriage was truly only meant to last for a short time so
that we could learn something we needed to know. Whatever the case, we need
friends who will allow us to linger in confusion when we don’t have the
answers and who will support us whether we find ways to reconcile and stay
married or whether we walk away.
Of course, the most essential ally we have lives inside our hearts and speaks
to us from within. We can trust this inner guide to help us choose people who
will support us in kind and loving ways as we navigate the rough terrain of
confusion and loss. Sometimes all we can do is look to the horizon,
remembering that we will get through this time, and no matter what happens we
will once again feel whole.
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