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Wednesday, 30 September 2026
On this day of your life
I believe God wants you to know ...
... that yesterday is a canceled check; tomorrow is a
promissory note; today is the only cash you have;
so spend it wisely.
Kay Lyons said that, and it is so very, very accurate.
What are you doing today? Are you putting energy
into the world that advances your life dream,
that empowers your life mission,
that fuels your life purpose?
Attracting the Right Relationship (OM)
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To those who feel “Not Enough”—You’ve Got This (Here’s Why).
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To all of the kind, empathetic, nurturing, loving humans who’ve been told they’re not enough.
You’re not pretty enough, not handsome enough, not sexy enough, not smart enough, not skinny enough, not interesting enough, or not communicative enough. Somewhere along the way, you took it as truth. You believed it.
To those who feel a real, loving, and functional connection has become strange, foreign, uncomfortable, or nonexistent. You’re afraid, you’re anxious, you’re depressed, you’ve lost your voice. It’s okay, Honey.
Your body aches, your mind scatters, you haven’t slept, you feel sick. I know, Sweetheart.
To those who feel they’re in the bottom of the ninth inning. You’ve got this, Babe.
To those who’ve been beaten, those wounds are not yours to hold. Wounds that started subtly, but now scream to own your heart and mind. They don’t own you. They are lies. They originate from a place of inadequacy. They have absolutely nothing to do with you.
Why does everyone else love this person? It must be me. It’s not. Shallow connections come easily to those who don’t really know others, who never have to meet their expectations or occupy their space. They’re game-face experts, players with years of practice who’ve mastered striking people out. Maybe this is your first ball game, second, or third. It doesn’t matter. It’s not your game. You were an easy out. They were professionals, trained to target your sweet, caring nature. Take off the glove babe, you don’t even like baseball.
Maybe you’ve been catching pitches all your life. Maybe the game started when you were young, easily influenced, unsure of your boundaries, strolling obliviously onto the field without protective gear. Innocent and naive, you lacked understanding. Nobody warned you that hurt people manage their pain by hurting others. They think it makes it go away. It doesn’t. So they keep throwing pitches. Throwing punches. Throwing words. Whatever—their game is not your game.
The only voice you listen to from this point forward is your own. Speak and hear your own loving truth. Not the voice of fear, full of doubt and uncomfortable with the unknown, the loving voice that says I can, that says I am. Whether you know it or not. You can. You are. You have begun.
They’re the ball and you’re the glove. Their slow curves turn into fastballs. Their pitch hits your glove perfectly, an undiscovered pocket where love should be. Your love.
Maybe you’ve been down this road before. Maybe it’s worse this time. Surely it must be your fault. It’s not. However, you have great responsibility. You have great power. You don’t know it yet. Babe, it’s there. I see it.
Sometimes it takes faith, trust in the universe, intuition, and listening to your inner voice for guidance to remove yourself from these situations. Only you can do it. Only you can begin.
People see it. Your kids see it. Your family sees it. Your friends see it. You aren’t hiding from anything except yourself. You may not have all the answers or any of them. It’s okay, Beautiful.
Whether you call it the Universe, God, or a higher power, it knows; it wants you to love yourself, so it can love you more than you can imagine. Love you back to health. Magic happens when you love yourself unconditionally; there is no other way to be loved.
I know you’re tired and full of doubt. I know. Let this be your sign. Let it clear the doubt, dispel the fear, and open your way.
Say these things. Maybe silently at first. Say them looking yourself straight in the eyes like your life depends on it. It does.
>> I am love
>> I am beautiful
>> I am worthy
>> I take nothing personally
>> I don’t owe anyone anything
>> I am free
Your higher power is asking you to clear your mind of fear and distractions, start loving you without conditions, beyond the noise of the inner critic, beyond the noise of the crowd. What is the most loving thing you can do for yourself? Begin with examining your thoughts. Let go of what is not loving or kind. When the veil of lies begins to lift, love and truth will shine and light the way.
You’ve been dying to say it, but the words stick in your throat. You feel suffocated. You can’t breathe. Unbearable weight crushes your shoulders. I’ve felt it too. Begin with one no. If you can’t say it out loud, say it quietly to yourself. When you say no to what’s not loving, you begin saying yes to loving yourself. With practice, your voice will grow. Just begin quietly.
Only you can walk through the dark tunnel of self-loathing and hatred. Only you can begin to heal your wounds from playing the game. If you love yourself, it doesn’t matter who likes you. Only you can uncover your awareness of the love you can give yourself. It was there all along.
If you look into the stands, there’s always someone cheering you on. More are on the way. They’re your tribe. They love you. How could they not? You are love itself.
When you get to the other side, you’ll never look at the game the same way again. You walk on, step by step. You’re kinder, more gentle, and loving with yourself. You begin to feel the sun on your face, smell the rain, dance to the music, and sing your heart out. You begin to enjoy life again. Your heart will begin to open. Imaginary walls will fade. You’ll trust in the uncertain magic of new beginnings.
The game is just an experience you needed to learn. An experience that gifted the lesson of learning to love yourself. The game no longer interests or fascinates. You don’t need or want to it play again—on any field of life.
It’s a new day. It’s time for a new experience and path. A healthy one. A loving one. A functional one. Love be with you. Love, be you. Do not try to be some idea of “perfect.” If you have love in your heart and infuse love into your thoughts and actions, trust me when I say—Perfect should try to be you.
It’s the bottom of the ninth, Babe. You’ve got this.
Breathe.
Game over.
She Sang to Me
My beautiful child, she said
Don’t you see?
You’re perfectly amazing
Inside every one of your flaws
The inspired creation
Of my every wonder, and awe
You are Now awake
So rest now, sweet Dear
I’m holding you gently
You’ve got nothing to fear
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Your Kid’s Straight A’s Won’t Save Their Adult Relationships.
Three years ago, I became a mother to a beautiful boy.
Naturally, when you enter parenthood, your social circle and daily community gradually shift toward connecting with other parents.
I hold immense respect for every parent out there because I now understand firsthand the endless challenges they face. I know how exhausted they are. I know how fiercely they love their children. Most of all, I know how desperate they are to raise well-educated kids.
Yet, whenever I’m around other parents, I notice the conversation always centers on letters, numbers, colors, animal names, and shapes. The sole obsession is academic milestones.
I understand that panic because it comes from a deep fear of watching your child fall behind. As a mom homeschooling a preschooler, I feel that exact pressure while teaching my son to read and write. That said, the drive is valid. And it continuously shocks me how exclusively we focus on academics.
Spiritually and emotionally, we’re falling behind as parents and letting our children down. We spend decades obsessing over the wrong childhood metrics. We fixate on grades while ignoring our kids’ emotional survival.
We track the exact moment they count to 10, recognize the alphabet, or hold a pencil correctly. Are they lefties or right-handed? Can they tell blue from purple? Can they sing their ABCs? We celebrate these academic markers because they’re visible and satisfying to witness.
However, we rarely bring that same energy to the quiet skills that will define their adult lives. Half of our generation is sitting in therapy today because of this mistake, and it’s heartbreaking how blindly we repeat what the previous generation missed.
We leave conflict resolution, emotional regulation, and deep empathy to sheer luck. We assume our children will magically absorb these abilities on their own, only to wonder why so many adults can’t handle a simple disagreement, take rejection, or manage their anger without destroying their relationships.
If we genuinely want to equip our children for reality, we must actively teach them the emotional skills we spent our own adulthoods trying to master.
Here are four emotional lessons I’m practicing with my own child that we can start passing down today:
1. Emotional regulation. We tend to treat a child’s anger or sadness like a fire that needs immediate extinguishing. We bribe them with treats, distract them with screens, or tell them “it’s no big deal” just to restore peace.
When we do this, we teach them that big emotions are dangerous and unacceptable. Instead, children need to learn that anger, frustration, and grief are normal emotions. They need to know how to feel an uncomfortable feeling without reacting or hiding from it.
2. Repairing relationships. When we constantly force children to apologize, “sorry” becomes an empty word meant to end the tension rather than a meaningful act of accountability.
We need to teach them how conflict resolution actually works. Conflict isn’t about winning; it’s about understanding how our actions may impact another person and taking genuine ownership. Teaching a child how to offer a real repair (and how to sit with the discomfort of having hurt someone) is the foundation of genuine connection.
3. Personal boundaries. We often teach children to respect adults’ boundaries, but we fail to honor theirs or teach them how to set their own boundaries with their peers.
A child who isn’t allowed to say “no” to an uncomfortable hug or an overwhelming situation grows into an adult who can’t set boundaries in relationships or at work. Children need to learn that their personal space and emotional limits matter—and that respecting someone else’s “no” is just as nonnegotiable.
4. Failing is okay. When we constantly protect kids from discomfort, we turn failure into a crisis. When a child breaks a toy, loses a game, or struggles with a task, our natural instinct is to step in and solve it for them.
Resilience isn’t an inherent trait; it’s a “muscle” we build when we allow our children to experience manageable frustration. They need to learn that making a mistake doesn’t mean they’re a failure. It simply means they have encountered a problem they haven’t figured out yet.
When we shift our focus from perfecting our child’s academic performance to nurturing their emotions, we give them the tools to build healthy relationships in the future.
Teaching these skills takes time, patience, and a lot of unlearning on our part. I know. But every time we choose connection over control and emotional awareness over quick fixes, we break a generational cycle.
We stop raising adults who have to spend their 30s healing from childhood wounds and start raising children who are ready to thrive.
author: Elyane Youssef
Image: PNW Production/Pexels
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