When we cohabit
with others, it is important to make the effort to share the space in a way
that supports everyone. Our homes are our havens. These places
where we come to rest, recharge, and dream in safety and comfort allow us to
better face the challenges of the world outside our doors. When sharing a
living space with others, an awareness of the thoughts and feelings of
everyone involved is essential in creating the peace we all desire.
Regardless of where we lived before, each time we cohabit with others it is
important that we make the effort to share the space in a way that supports
everyone. We need to remember that in a shared space,
everything we sense can also be sensed by another person. Peace will not
likely be the result when the senses are filled with the sight of unwashed
plates, intrusive sounds, unpleasant smells, the feel of a foreign substance
beneath bare feet, or the taste of food tainted by an uncovered onion in the
fridge. But if we communicate and listen with respect to those with whom we
share a space, we may find that one enjoys washing dishes to end the day,
while the other can take out the garbage during their evening walk. Working
with another’s schedule, you can still meditate or exercise to your favorite
music while the other is out, and save reading for the times when they are
trying to sleep. Being thoughtful of the energy that is required for
something to be cleaned up may make everyone aware of being neater, whether
that means taking off your shoes at the entrance or wiping up juice spilled
on the kitchen floor. In the same way, pent up resentment toward
your living partners is just as easily felt. Keeping the energy clear
requires the effort of communication, the awareness of another’s feelings,
and courtesy toward the space you share. While that sometimes requires
changing your schedule or habits, there are many times when having a caring
someone nearby is worth all the effort. Living with others can help us learn
to mingle our energies at home as well as at work and in the world at large
in a way that benefits us and everyone around us. |
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