The period of
completion, rather than being just an act of finality, is also one of
transition. Life is a collage of beginnings and endings
that run together like still-wet paint. Yet before we can begin any new phase
in life, we must sometimes first achieve closure to the current stage we are
in. That’s because many of life’s experiences call for closure. Often, we
cannot see the significance of an event or importance of a lesson until we
have reached closure. Or, we may have completed a certain phase in life or
path of learning and want to honor that ending. It is this sense of
completion that frees us to open the door to new beginnings. Closure serves
to tie up or sever loose ends, quiets the mind even when questions have been
left unanswered, signifies the end of an experience, and acknowledges that a
change has taken place. The period of completion, rather than being
just an act of finality, is also one of transition. When we seek closure,
what we really want is an understanding of what has happened and an
opportunity to derive what lessons we can from an experience. Without
closure, there is no resolution and we are left to grieve, relive old
memories to the point of frustration, or remain forever connected to people
from our past. A sense of completion regarding a situation may also result
when we accept that we have done our best. If you can’t officially achieve
closure with someone, you can create completion by participating in a closure
ritual. Write a farewell letter to that person and then burn your note during
a ceremony. This ritual allows you to consciously honor and appreciate what
has taken place between you and release the experience so you can move
forward. Closure can help you let go of feelings of
anger or uncertainty regarding your past even as you honor your experience –
whether good or bad - as a necessary step on your life’s path. Closure allows
you to emotionally lay to rest issues and feelings that may be weighing down
your spirit. When you create closure, you affirm that you have done what was
needed, are wiser because of your experience, and are ready for whatever life
wants to bring you next. |
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