It’s a new year, and with that comes endless possibilities of exciting new changes in my life. It can be anything I want it to be.
Instead of being out and about ringing in the new year, I spent the evening harnessing the unique magical vibes buzzing through the night skies.
As the night neared midnight, I collected my thoughts and plans for the new year ahead of me.
It was a night filled with mystical melodies softly humming through the speaker. Smoke gently filled the room with the sweet aroma of sage and candles that burned on the nightstand in the corner of my bedroom. I lay across the bed crafting my new vision board. Everything was exactly how it was supposed to be. I could hardly contain my excitement for how perfect the night felt.
This year is all about changing my view on love.
I think about love more than most people do. Love has always felt as if it was untouchable for me.
I’ve been obsessed with love for as long as I can remember. It was one of those things I knew nothing about, so I wanted it even more than I wanted to breathe. A little dramatic, I know, but it was the not knowing that drove my desire to experience the unknown.
I have always been enchanted by the power love had to move mountains and change the lives of the people in it.
The luckiest of people fell head over heels in love and spent the rest of their lives together. Love was so powerful that people even gave up on their own hopes and dreams just to redefine new hopes and dreams as a couple for the sake of love.
For some, love faded and changed the course of where they thought they were going. For others, love was simply lost leaving them feeling sad and confused.
But then, of course, love can also be found again and again and all over again for only the brave who are willing to keep their fragile hearts open to the possibilities. Even if it’s just for the night.
And then there is the dreaded one-sided love. Something I’ve somehow found myself in by accident. It seems this is the only kind of love I’ve allowed in my life recently.
Most love stories are about people who fall in love with each other. But not mine. I fell in love alone with a man who did not and would never ever love me back. Yet I couldn’t move on. It was a one-sided love affair. I loved him for years. And these have been the most miserable years of my life filled with loneliness. Love has felt like the darkest days of my life to the point that I tell myself I don’t want love. But the truth is, I do. I love love. I just don’t love this kind of love.
I allowed myself to think this kind of love was acceptable. I’ve somehow forgotten I was the leading lady in my own story. Instead, I frolicked as if I was an extra in my own love life.
So this year, this brand new year of possibilities, I will be the leading lady in my story that embodies confidence, poise, and a strong presence in love.
I’m showing up for myself.
Leading ladies (and men) do not fall in love alone. They lead their lives with self-assuredness by believing in their abilities, valuing their opinions, and projecting confidence in their demeanor and actions. Believe in yourself.
They show strong communication skills by speaking clearly, articulately, and with conviction; actively listen and engage in conversations. Speak your truth out loud.
They display leadership qualities by taking initiative, guiding others, and making well-thought-out decisions. Lead your life, not just in love but in every area of your life.
They ooze emotional intelligence by understanding their own emotions and those of others, responding appropriately and with empathy. Show the world parts of your soul.
They exhibit resilience by bouncing back from setbacks, adapting to challenges, and maintaining composure under pressure. Don’t ever let anyone or any situation control your outcome.
They communicate polished presence by paying attention to their appearance, grooming, and body language to project a put-together image. Stand tall.
They set goals and take action by defining clear objectives and actively work toward them, celebrating milestones along the way. You can reset your goals over and over again. You can also change your goals along the way. As long as you work toward them.
They build relationships by connecting with others, establish meaningful connections, and leverage their relationships for support and opportunities. Get social. It’s important.
They embrace challenges by viewing challenges as opportunities to grow and demonstrate their capabilities. Do things that scare you.
They mentor others and share their knowledge and experience to uplift and empower those around them. Love needs mentors more than we know.
They practice self-care and prioritize their physical and mental well-being to maintain energy and focus. Vision boards, therapy, and journaling are great ways to focus.
All love stories come with soul searching, with lessons of strength we never knew we had. Whatever your story was before this moment that landed you here, use that soul searching and those lessons of strength to get you where you are going next.
Being a leading lady (or man) is knowing that you deserve everything and anything you want.
Being a leading lady (or man) is about self-acceptance, personal growth, and newfound confidence.
You deserve that head-over-heels kind of love. The kind of love where you spend the rest of your lives together. If that is what you want. As long as you play the leading part, you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be when it comes to your love story.
You deserve the f*cking best love story that was ever written.
Whatever you are allowing to interfere with your leading role, it ends here.
You deserve the f*cking best love story that was ever written because you were born to lead in your own story.
The leading part was only meant for you.
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