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When we begin to listen with our hearts rather than our heads, our whole world changes and becomes softer. Most of us were born and raised in cultures that value the head
over the heart and, as a result, we place our own hearts below our heads in a
sort of inner hierarchy of which we may not be conscious. What this means is
that we tend to listen and respond from the neck up, often leaving the rest
of our bodies with little or no say in most matters. This is a physical
habit, which sometimes feels as ingrained as the way we breathe or walk.
However, with effort and awareness, we can shift the energy into our hearts,
listening and responding from this much deeper, more resonant place. The brain has a masterful way of imposing structure and order on the world, creating
divisions and categories, devising plans and strategies. In many ways, we
have our brains to thank for our survival on this planet. However, as is so
clear at this time, we also need the wisdom of our hearts if we wish to
continue surviving in a viable way. When we listen from our heart, the
logical grid of the brain tends to soften and melt, which enables us to
perceive the interconnectedness beneath the divisions and categories we use
to organize the world. We begin to understand that just as the heart
underlies the brain, this interconnectedness underlies everything.
Many agree that this is the most important work we can do at this time in
history, and there are many practices at our disposal. For a simple start,
try sitting with a friend and asking him to tell you about his life at this
moment. For 10 minutes or more, try to listen without responding verbally,
offering suggestions, or brainstorming solutions. Instead, breathe into your
heart and your belly, listening and feeling instead of thinking. When you do
this, you may find that it's much more difficult to offer advice and much
easier to identify with the feelings your friend is sharing. You may also
find that your friend opens up more, goes deeper, and feels he has really
been heard. If you also feel great warmth and compassion, almost as if you
are seeing your friend for the first time, then you will know that you have
begun to tap the power of listening with your heart.
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