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The period of completion, rather than being just an act of finality, is also one of transition. Life is a collage of beginnings and endings that run together
like still-wet paint. Yet before we can begin any new phase in life, we must
sometimes first achieve closure to the current stage we are in. That's
because many of life's experiences call for closure. Often, we cannot see the
significance of an event or importance of a lesson until we have reached
closure. Or, we may have completed a certain phase in life or path of
learning and want to honor that ending. It is this sense of completion that
frees us to open the door to new beginnings. Closure serves to tie up or
sever loose ends, quiets the mind even when questions have been left
unanswered, signifies the end of an experience, and acknowledges that a
change has taken place. The period of completion, rather than being just an act of finality, is also
one of transition. When we seek closure, what we really want is an
understanding of what has happened and an opportunity to derive what lessons
we can from an experience. Without closure, there is no resolution and we are
left to grieve, relive old memories to the point of frustration, or remain
forever connected to people from our past. A sense of completion regarding a
situation may also result when we accept that we have done our best. If you
can't officially achieve closure with someone, you can create completion by
participating in a closure ritual. Write a farewell letter to that person and
then burn your note during a ceremony. This ritual allows you to consciously
honor and appreciate what has taken place between you and release the
experience so you can move forward.
Closure can help you let go of feelings of anger or uncertainty regarding
your past even as you honor your experience -- whether good or bad -- as a
necessary step on your life's path. Closure allows you to emotionally lay to
rest issues and feelings that may be weighing down your spirit. When you
create closure, you affirm that you have done what was needed, are wiser
because of your experience, and are ready for whatever life wants to bring
you next.
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