It can take great courage to really sit with our feelings,
allowing ourselves to surrender to their powerful energies. All too often we
set our feelings aside, thinking we will deal with them later. If we don't
deal with them, we end up storing them in our minds and bodies and this is
when anxiety and other health issues can arise. Denying what our bodies want
to feel can lead to trouble now or down the line, which is why being in the
thick of our feelings, no matter how scary it seems, is really the best thing
we can do for ourselves.
One of the reasons we tend to hide or push aside our feelings is that we live
in a culture that has not traditionally supported emotional awareness.
However, as the connection between mind and body -- our emotions and our physical
health -- becomes clearer, awareness of the importance of feeling our
feelings has grown. There are many books, classes, workshops and retreats
that can help us on our way to emotional intelligence. We can also trust in
our own ability to process what comes up when it comes up. If sadness arises,
we can notice its presence and welcome it, noting where in our bodies we feel
it, and allowing ourselves to express it through tears or a quiet turning
inward.
When we simply allow ourselves to fully feel our feelings as they come, we
tend to let them go easily. This is all we are required to do; our feelings
simply want to be felt. We often complicate the situation by applying mental
energy in the form of analysis, when all we really need is to allow, as the
earth allows the rain to fall upon it. As the rain falls, the earth responds
in a multitude of ways, sometimes emptying out to form a great canyon,
sometimes soaking it up to nourish an infinitude of plants. In the same way,
the deeper purpose of our feelings is to transform the terrain of our inner
world, sometimes creating space for more feelings to flow, sometimes
providing sustenance for growth. All we need to do is allow the process by
relaxing, opening, and receiving the bounty of our emotions.
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