When we look back at the past, knowing what we know now, we
often find it difficult to understand how we made the mistakes we made. This
is because once we learn new information, it is nearly impossible to reenter
the headspace we were in before we learned that information. And so we look
back at parents who spanked their kids, for example, and wonder how they
could have thought that was a good idea. Similarly, our personal pasts are
full of mistakes we can't believe we made. We did things then that we would
never do now, and this is precisely because we have information now that we
didn't have, or weren't able to access, then.
From ideas about how to raise children to how to treat the environment, our
collective human past sometimes reads like a document on what not to do. In
many ways, this is exactly as it should be. We learn from living and having
experiences. It is from these past actions that we garnered the information
that guides us to live differently now. Just so, in our personal lives, we
probably had to have a few unsuccessful relationships or jobs, learning about
our negative tendencies through them, in order to gain the wisdom we have
now.
In order to live more peacefully with the past, it helps to remember that
once we know better, we tend to do better. Prior to knowing, we generally do
our best, and while it's true that from the perspective of the present, our
best doesn't always seem good enough, we can at least give our past selves
the benefit of the doubt. We did our best with what knowledge we had. Beyond
this, we serve the greater good most effectively by not dwelling on the past,
instead reigning our energy and knowledge into our present actions. It is
here, in this moment, that we create our reality and ourselves anew, with our
current knowledge and information.
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