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For better or worse, many people have been raised to believe that
communicating in an honest and open way will not get them what they want.
Instead, they have learned to play mind games or go on power trips in the
service of their ego’s agenda. People stuck in this outmoded and inefficient
style of communication can be trying at best and downright destructive at worst.
We may get caught up in thinking we have to play the same games in order to
defend ourselves, but that will only lead us deeper into confusion and
conflict. The best way to handle people like this is to be clear and honest
with them.
As with all relationships and situations, we must look within for both the
source of our difficulties and the solution. Reacting to the situation by
getting upset will only entrench us more deeply in it. Only by disengaging,
becoming still, and going within can we begin to see what has hooked us into
the mess in the first place. We will most likely find unprocessed emotions
that we can finally fully feel. The more we are able to do this, the less we
will be bothered by the other person’s dramas and the more we will be free to
respond in a new way. In the light of our new awareness, the situation will
untangle itself and we will slowly break free.
Whenever people come into our lives, they have come for a reason, to show us
something about ourselves that we have not been able to see. When unhealthy
people try to hook us into their patterns with mind games and power trips, we
can remind ourselves that we have something to learn and that a part of us is
calling out for healing. This takes the focus off the troubling individual and
puts it back on us, giving us the opportunity to change the situation from
the inside out.
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