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When we include
our friends in the full story of our life, we build authentic relationships
in which we can be who we truly are. When we are going through a difficult time,
we may hesitate to call even our best friends because we don’t want to burden
them with our troubles. This can be especially true if we’ve been going
through a series of challenges, and we’re starting to feel as if we sound
like a broken record. It is important to remember that at times like these
our friends sincerely want to be there for us whenever they can. We can
always check with them to make sure it’s a good time for them before we start
talking, and if it’s not a good time, we can call back at another time, or
call another friend. We know for ourselves that when we have a
good friend, we don’t want them to suffer alone when we are just a phone call
away. We want them to call us and share their sorrows with us, as well as
their joys, because this is what sharing a life through friendship is about.
It is at our lowest points that we really need to rely on our friends without
worrying that we are a burden. If you are feeling self-conscious about having
a tough time, you can bring this fact into the conversation by acknowledging
it. Chances are your friend will reassure you that she is happy to be there
for you. In fact, rather than feeling taxed, most of us feel better when we
have helped a friend simply by listening empathically while they share their
feelings. Without our friends, we would be hard
pressed to get through the tough times and celebrate the good ones. If we
leave our friends out of our process when the going gets tough, our
friendships can begin to feel shallow. On the other hand, when we include our
friends in the full story of our life -- the good, the bad, and the ugly --
we build authentic relationships in which we can be who we truly are. When we
do this, we invite our friends to bring their whole selves to the
relationship as well. |
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