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We are all almost always in the process
of learning something new, developing an underused ability or talent, or
toning down an overused one. Some of us are involved in learning how to
speak up for ourselves, while others are discovering how to be more considerate.
In the process of becoming, we are always growing and fine tuning one of
our many qualities, and it is a natural part of this process for things
to get out of balance. This may be upsetting to us or the people around
us, but we can trust that it’s normal in self-development.
For example, when we are setting
boundaries and taking care of ourselves, we may go through a phase of
needing to learn how to say no. During this time, we might say no to just
about everything, as a way of practicing and exploring this ability. Like
a child who starts saying a new word, we want to try out this new avenue
of expression and empowerment as much as we can. It is new and exciting
for us, and we want to explore it fully. We are mastering a new skill,
and eventually, as we integrate it into our overall identity, it will
resume its position as one part of our balanced life.
Throughout these phases, we
overcompensate for a quality that was suppressed in our life, and the
swinging of the pendulum from under-use to overuse serves to bring that
quality into balance. Understanding what’s happening is a useful tool
that helps us to be patient with the process. In the end, the pendulum
settles comfortably in the center, restoring balance inside and out.
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