Our Spiritual Dilemma

 Codependence causes a dilemma to boil inside us. For many of us, our pain and despair are sign of a deep inner need. This need, hunger or desire gnaws at the core of our being. It could be a cry for unconditional love, respect, nurturing, acceptance or joy. Many of us turn to other people, drugs, alcohol or other addictions to fill this need to gain some sense of safety, self-worth and well-being... 

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.. In CoDA, we learn that our self-worth and well-being come from our Higher Power. When we attempt to codependently control or manipulate others, we turn ourselves into a Higher Power to maintain our sense of safety and well-being. When we codependently  avoid others, as well as adapt or change our behavior for others, we give them, instead of our Higher Power, this control and strength...

As we turn ourselves into a Higher Power or give this power to others, we leave little room for our Higher Power to work in our lives. This is our spiritual dilemma....

....As we continue to strengthen our relationship with our Higher Power throughout our recovery, our despair and hopelessness are replaced with an increasing strength and resiliency. Step by step our fear of shame diminishes. It becomes easier to allow our Higher Power to guide our life's journey.