On this day of your life

Neytiri & Jake, I believe God wants you to know...

...that holding a grudge does no one any good,

and rarely achieves the result of hurting or damaging

the one you cannot forgive.

The only one who gets hurt or damaged by your holding a grudge

is you. Now I know that you already know this.

So why hold a grudge?

Many people say, "It is to protect my own dignity.

I will not speak to that person unless he or she speaks

to me first -- and says they are sorry, and asks forgiveness."

Yet is this the way to retain one's dignity?

It may be.

I'm just asking.