by
Madisyn Taylor
When we find ourselves in an argument, we may feel like we are
losing control of emotions that have taken on lives of their own. When we can
become aware that this is happening, taking a deep breath can help us step
back from the situation. Once we can separate ourselves from the heat of the
moment, we may find that the emotional trigger that began the argument has
little to do with the present situation, but may have brought up feelings
related to something else entirely. Looking honestly at what caused our
reaction allows us to consciously respond more appropriately to the situation
and make the best choices.
We can make an agreement with our partners and those closest to us that
asking questions can help all of us discover the source of the argument. The
shared awareness can result in finding simple solutions to something
physical, like low blood sugar or even a hormonal surge. Maybe we are taking
ourselves too seriously, and we can just laugh and watch the tension
dissolve. We could also discover that perhaps we are addicted to the
excitement that drama brings and the chemicals that our body creates when we
are angry. But there may be a deeper issue that requires discussion,
understanding, and patience. The more we allow ourselves to step back and
examine our reasons for arguing, the easier it becomes to allow real feelings
to surface and guide us toward solutions that improve our lives.
When we can be clear about our feelings and intentions and communicate them
clearly, we have a far better chance of getting what we want than if we lose
control or allow our subconscious minds to manipulate the situation. We might
take our frustrations out on the people closest to us because we feel safe
and comfortable with them, but misplaced anger can cause more harm than good.
Arguing for what we truly believe can empower us and help us to direct our
passions toward greater life experiences. Truly knowing our reasons for
arguing enables us to grow emotionally in ways that will affect our whole
being.
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