Everything we do and say in the presence of our children makes
an impression on them. We may think we can get away with swearing or
gossiping in front of them when they can't talk, but we have forgotten that
just because they can't talk doesn't mean they don't hear. They are sensitive
sponges absorbing their environment in ways we will never know. Even if the
words don't make sense to them, they make an impression, as does the energy
behind the words. We honor our children when we acknowledge that they are
fully present from the very beginning and when we offer ourselves to them in
ways that model the best of what humans can be.
When we bring a child into the world, a great welling up of love and hope
fills our hearts. We unequivocally want the very best for our children, and
we want to be the best parents a child could ever want. We begin to see
ourselves and our lives in a different light, and things that seemed okay
before we had a child suddenly reveal themselves as problematic. This can
lead to a somewhat mincing review of our habits of speech, thought and
feeling, our relationships, and our physical habits. We may feel that we have
put ourselves under a microscope, which can be stressful. However, it can
also lead to a great healing of our own unresolved issues, enabling us to be
good parents to our children. Talking to other conscious parents about this
life transformation can be very helpful.
Our desire to become the best we can be is often strongest at the very
beginning of a child's life and sometimes loses its intensity as we grow
accustomed to their presence. However, it is never too late to look at
ourselves and notice whether we are offering our best to our children. That
original welling up of love and hope can inspire us throughout our lives to
be the best we can be.
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