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Everyone is entitled to seek out their own path leading from the
darkness into the light. Watching a
loved one or a peer traverse a path littered with stumbling blocks can be
immensely painful. We instinctively want to guide them toward a safer track
and share with them the wisdom we have acquired through experience. Yet all
human beings have the right to carve their own paths without being unduly
influenced by outside interference. To deny them that right is to deny them
enlightenment, as true insight cannot be conveyed in lectures. Rather, each
individual must earn independence and illumination by making decisions and
reflecting upon the consequences of each choice. In allowing others to walk
their paths freely, you honor their right to express their humanity in
whatever way they see fit. Though you may not agree with or identify with
their choices, understand that each person must learn in their own way and at
their own pace. The events and
circumstances that shape our lives are unique because each of us is unique.
What touches one person deeply may do nothing more than irritate or confound
another. Therefore, each of us is drawn to different paths—the paths that
will have the most profound effects on our personal evolution. If you feel
compelled to intervene when watching another human being make their way
slowly and painfully down a difficult path, try to empathize with their need
to grow autonomous and make their own way in the world. Should this person
ask for your aid, give it freely. You can even tell them about your path or
offer advice in a conscious loving way. Otherwise, give them the space they
need to make their own mistakes, to enjoy the fruits of their labors, to
revel in their triumphs, and to discover their own truths. The temptation
to direct the paths of others is a creature of many origins. Overactive egos
can convince us that ours is the one true path or awaken a craving for
control within us. But each person is entitled to seek out their path leading
from the darkness into the light. When we celebrate those paths and encourage
the people navigating them, we not only enjoy the privilege of watching
others grow—we also reinforce our dedication to diversity, independence, and
individuality. |
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