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Bitter feelings allow us to become perfect victims, in that we no
longer feel obliged to work toward healing. It is natural
to feel resentment or anger when life does not unfold as expected. We
consciously or unconsciously anticipated one experience, and we grieve for
the loss of it when the universe puts something else in our path. Most of the
time, we work through these feelings and they pass. Occasionally, our anger
and resentment do not fade and are instead transformed into bitterness.
Bitter feelings allow us to become perfect victims in that we no longer feel
obliged to work toward healing and choose instead to identify with our pain.
Yet as unwholesome as bitterness can be, it is also a natural element of our
emotional palette. When we acknowledge that it is okay to feel bitter, we
reconnect with our hurt in a constructive way and can begin the process of
working through it. The nature of
bitterness is rooted in the fact that the pain we feel provides us with a
rationale. We may feel that we deserve to embrace our bitterness to its full
extent. And to be bitter is, in essence, to cut ourselves off from all that
is positive, hardening our hearts and vowing never to let go of our hurt. But
just as bitter feelings can be self-defeating, so too can the release of
bitterness be life-affirming in a way that few other emotional experiences
are. When we decide that we no longer want to be bitter, we are reborn into a
world filled with delight and fulfillment unlike any we knew while in the
clutches of bitterness. The veil it cast over our lives is lifted, letting
light and warmth touch our souls. Divesting
yourself of bitter feelings can be as simple as truly forgiving and moving
on. Even when your bitterness has no concrete object, you can forgive
situations too. Healing pain can be challenging but may be easier if you
remind yourself that you are the only entity truly affected by your emotional
state. In time, you will discover that letting go of your bitterness frees
you to initiate the healing process and allows you to once again celebrate
the possibility of the more wonderful life you deserve. |
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