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When we offer
nothing but excuses in our lives, we are not being honest with anybody,
mostly ourselves. Excuses may seem like rational reasons for
us not to do something, but if we’re not careful, we can allow them to keep
us from reaching our goals. Too often we accept our excuses as reasons why we
cannot accomplish what we set out to do, and instead of finding alternatives,
we give up. But if we can be honest with ourselves and take responsibility for
our choices, we will begin to notice that we no longer give excuses. When we
keep our minds focused on our goals, we will find that excuses fade away in
the light of our priorities and issues become challenges that can help us
become wiser and stronger. Sometimes we may give others excuses rather
than be fully honest. We may think it is kind to tell someone we are willing
to do something with them, whether work or play, but then keep putting them
off. This diverts our energy into keeping the truth at a distance while
continuing a falsehood. But when we can take responsibility for our feelings
and express them honestly but gently, the other person is free to find
someone who is better suited to accompany them while we are free to pursue
the things we like. When we can do this, our energy can be invested in
building better lives and relationships. There’s another way in which excuses rob us
of energy — and that is in the power of our thoughts and words. If we find
ourselves in a situation, for example, where we are being asked for a
financial contribution but we use the excuse that we can’t afford it, we
create and attract lack and limitation into our lives. The same goes for
seemingly simple things like pretending to not feel well or any other false
statement. We may think that excuses make things easier, but they complicate
matters with smokescreens. When we can commit to our priorities, take
responsibility for our choices, and communicate them honestly to others,
there will be no need to make excuses, and we will have much more energy to
dedicate to all the things we love. |
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