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Watching a loved one or a peer traverse
a path littered with stumbling blocks can be immensely painful. We
instinctively want to guide them toward a safer track and share with them
the wisdom we have acquired through experience. Yet all human beings have
the right to carve their own paths without being unduly influenced by
outside interference. To deny them that right is to deny them
enlightenment, as true insight cannot be conveyed in lectures. Rather,
each individual must earn independence and illumination by making
decisions and reflecting upon the consequences of each choice. In
allowing others to walk their paths freely, you honor their right to
express their humanity in whatever way they see fit. Though you may not
agree with or identify with their choices, understand that each person
must learn in their own way and at their own pace.
The events and circumstances that shape
our lives are unique because each of us is unique. What touches one
person deeply may do nothing more than irritate or confound another.
Therefore, each of us is drawn to different paths — the paths that will
have the most profound effects on our personal evolution. If you feel
compelled to intervene when watching another human being make their way
slowly and painfully down a difficult path, try to empathize with their
need to grow autonomous and make their own way in the world. Should this
person ask for your aid, give it freely. You can even tell them about
your path or offer advice in a conscious loving way. Otherwise, give them
the space they need to make their own mistakes, to enjoy the fruits of
their labors, to revel in their triumphs, and to discover their own
truths.
The temptation to direct the paths of
others is a creature of many origins. Overactive egos can convince us
that ours is the one true path or awaken a craving for control within us.
But each person is entitled to seek out their path, leading from the darkness
into the light. When we celebrate those paths and encourage the people
navigating them, we not only enjoy the privilege of watching others grow
— we also reinforce our dedication to diversity, independence, and
individuality.
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