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Celebrating the happiness of others requires a generosity of spirit that we often find only in the process. We all want to be the kind of people who are happy for others
when they experience success or a cause for celebration in their lives, but
it isn't always easy. Sometimes powerful, dark feelings come up at times when
decorum dictates we should be feeling the opposite. Instead of reaching out
and celebrating our loved one, we may feel the rising up of our own pain.
This pain may arise because we feel jealous of our friend for having
something we don't. It may arise because our friend's success will lead to us
losing them in some way. And it may arise for reasons we don't yet
understand. The important thing is not to brush it under the rug, but to take
it seriously and look at it; suppressing it will only make it worse. At the
same time, we need to be sure to find a way to congratulate our friends and
celebrate their successes as if they were our own. |
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