Intense emotions demand intense modes of expression. While there are many
outlets for the feelings typically deemed positive, however, there are far
fewer methods for constructively coping with anger, frustration, fear,
sadness, or stress. Consequently, such feelings can cause us to believe that
we are no longer in control of our emotional state. Backed into a mental
corner, we may lash out at the first individual we encounter. Most of us will
quickly discover that our misdirected outpouring of fury has not relieved the
pressure of our pain. Powerful emotions are like the lava in a volcano poised
to erupt -- held in check with nothing but an eroding layer of calm. Within
us lies the power to direct the flood of feeling that surges forth by
channeling it into productive, artistic, or laborious pursuits.
Retaking control of our emotions at their height can be difficult because our
already negative feelings can convince us that others are deserving of our
wrath. But if we consciously look for healthier ways of expressing what we
feel, we can both safely dispel our pain and use the energy of that pain to
add value to our lives. Anger and sadness, for example, can become the
inspiration that induces us to dedicate ourselves to bringing about the
change we wish to see in the world. If we act rather than react, we can
become effective agents of positive transformation. When we channel our
frustration or feelings of stress into outside-the-box thinking and proactive
exploits, we are more apt to discover solutions to the issues that initially
left us stymied. And if we view fear as a signal that we need to reexamine
our circumstances rather than a cue to flee, we may gain new and unexpected
insight into our lives.
Channeling your emotions into constructive action can also prevent you from
engaging in cyclical rumination in which you repeatedly relive the situation,
event, or expectation that originally sparked your feelings in your mind's
eye. Since you are focused on a goal, even if your ambition is merely to
better understand yourself, your pain is no longer being fed by your
intellectual and emotional energy and quickly ebbs away. You not only avoid
lashing out at others, but you also actively take part in your own healing
process while honestly acknowledging and honoring your feelings.
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