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Jealousy is a common human feeling and usually stems from a place of
lack in our own lives. Jealousy is one of the toughest feelings
we come up against in our lives. There is not much worse than this aching
sense that somehow life has been unfair to us, while amply rewarding someone
else. It’s even worse if that someone else is present in our daily lives,
making it difficult for us to get the space we need to feel and heal our
pain. We may be jealous of a sibling, a dear friend, or even famous
personalities. We may even face the challenge of feeling jealous of our
spouse, our child, or one of our parents. Whatever the case, we can normalize
our experience by understanding that, as painful as it is, jealousy is a
common human feeling. Nevertheless, it is important that we not
revel in our jealousy for too long, feeding it with inner talk or gossip with
others. If we do, we run the risk of losing ourselves to its negative power.
Jealousy has something good to offer us, though, and that is information
about our own heart’s desire. When we are jealous of certain people, we want
what they have, and if we are to be conscious, we must acknowledge that. In
this way, we discover what we want for ourselves, which is the first step to
getting it. It may be a certain kind of relationship or a career. Whatever it
is, it is possible that we could create it for ourselves, in our own lives,
if we are able to honor our own desires. Of course, there are times when we cannot
heal our jealousy in this way, and then the lesson may be about acceptance
and the understanding that our path is different from the paths of those
around us. It may be hard to see now, but perhaps it will eventually be clear
why our life has taken its particular path. In the end, the best cure for
jealousy is the recognition that the life we have is full of its own meaning
and beauty, utterly unique to us—a gift that could never be found in the life
of another. |
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