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As children,
our parents had dreams for us. They wanted us to do well in school, and to do
whatever was necessary to reach our highest potential. Later in life, friends
may try to set us up with their idea of the perfect partner or the perfect
job. Spouses may have agendas for us, too. People close to us may have ideas
about how we should live our lives, ideas that usually come from love and the
desire for us to be happy. Other times, they come from a place of need within
them—whether it is the parent who wants us to live out his or her dreams or
the friend or spouse who wants us to play an already-defined role. Whatever
the case, we can appreciate and consider those people’s input, but ultimately
we must follow our own inner guidance.
There may come a time when all the suggestions can become overbearing. We may
feel that the people we love don’t approve of our judgment, which can hurt
our feelings. It can interfere with the choices we make for our lives by
making us doubt ourselves, or filling a void with their wishes before we’ve
had a chance to decide what we want. It can affect us energetically as well.
We may have to deal with feelings of resistance or the need to shut ourselves
off from them. But we can take some time to rid ourselves of any unnecessary
doubts and go within to become clear on what we desire for ourselves.
We can tell our loved ones how much we appreciate their thoughts and ideas,
but that we need to live our own lives and make our own decisions. We can
explain that they need to let us learn from our own experiences rather than
rob us of wonderful life lessons and the opportunity to fine-tune our own
judgment. When they see that we are happy with our lives and the path we are
taking to reach our goals, they can rest assured that all we need them to do
is to share in our joy.
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