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As children, our parents had dreams for
us. They wanted us to do well in school and whatever was necessary to
reach our highest potential. Later in life, friends may try to set us up
with their idea of the perfect partner or the perfect job. Spouses may have
agendas for us, too. People close to us may have ideas about how we
should live our lives. These ideas usually come from love and the desire
for us to be happy, but other times, they may come from a place of need —
whether it is the parent who wants us to live out their dreams or the
friend or spouse who wants us to play an already-defined role. Whatever
the case, we can appreciate and consider those people’s input, but
ultimately, we must follow our own inner guidance.
There may come a time when all the
suggestions can become overbearing. We may feel that the people we love
don’t approve of our judgment, which can hurt our feelings. Their
suggestions can interfere with the choices we make for our lives — making
us doubt ourselves. Or we may fill a void with their wishes before we’ve
had a chance to decide what we want. It can affect us energetically as
well. We may have to deal with feelings of resistance or the need to shut
ourselves off from them. But we can take some time to rid ourselves of
any unnecessary doubts and go within to become clear on what we desire
for ourselves.
We can tell our loved ones how much we
appreciate their thoughts and ideas, but we need to live our own lives
and make our own decisions. We can explain that they need to let us learn
from our own experiences rather than rob us of wonderful life lessons and
the opportunity to fine-tune our own judgment. When they see that we are
happy with our lives and the path we are taking to reach our goals, they
can rest assured that all we need them to do is to share in our joy.
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