Pain comes and it goes. It is just one component to the grand
cycle of life. And when experienced as such, pain can serve as an important
teacher. It is when we get stuck in our pain that it becomes detrimental to
our well-being and development. If you notice that you feel closed-off,
resentful, heavy-hearted, or that you try very hard to avoid being hurt
again, there may be a part of you that is still stuck in pain.
We can get stuck in our pain for many reasons. As children, it was natural
for us to cry, throw a tantrum, and let the experience move through us. By
fully feeling our pain in this way, our emotions would wash us clean, leaving
us open and available to new experiences. With age, though, we might have
determined that expressing emotion was no longer appropriate, and so we
developed a variety of coping strategies to deal with our discomfort. We may
have learned to stuff our feelings down or to run away from them. Perhaps we
began thinking that staying closed and unwilling to try new things would keep
us safe from heartbreak, safe from rejection, and safe from failure. We may
have even gotten so used to being in pain that the thought of being without
it scares us. But, if we continue to hold onto it longer than necessary, we
are expending a lot of energy that could instead be channeled into making our
life experiences more positive.
If you notice that you are continually connecting with the same familiar
patterns of pain, consider embracing your feelings and letting go of your
hurt. Whether your pain is from childhood or from an experience last week,
see if you can give it room to move. When it does, you will reconnect with a
wonderful source of your own vital energy.
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