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You may want to press the fast-forward button through your pain, but
in doing so you would miss out on important learning. We all go through times when we wish we
could press a fast-forward button and propel ourselves into the future and
out of our current circumstances. Whether the situation we are facing is
minor, or major such as the loss of a loved one, it is human nature to want
to move away from pain and find comfort as soon as possible. Yet we all know
deep down that we need to work through these experiences in a conscious
fashion rather than bury our heads in the sand, because these are the times
when we access important information about ourselves and life. The learning
process may not be easy, but it is full of lessons that bring us wisdom we
cannot find any other way. The desire to press fast-forward can lead
to escapism and denial, both of which only prolong our difficulties and in
some cases make them worse. The more direct, clear, and courageous we are in
the face of whatever we are dealing with, the more quickly we will move
through the situation. Understanding this, we may begin to realize that
trying to find the fast-forward button is really more akin to pressing pause.
When we truly grasp that the only way out of any situation in which we find
ourselves is to go through it, we stop looking for ways to escape and we
start paying close attention to what is happening. We realize that we are
exactly where we need to be. We remember that we are in this situation in order
to learn something we need to know, and we can alleviate some of our pain
with the awareness that there is a purpose to our suffering. When you feel the urge to press the
fast-forward button, remember that you are not alone; we all instinctively
avoid pain. But in doing so, we often prolong our pain and delay important
learning. As you choose to move forward in real time, know that in the long
run, this is the least painful way to go. |
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