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Many people have not witnessed a loving relationship between their
parents, so they don’t know what it looks like. Loving and committing to another person
is a spiritual process whether it involves a wedding or any other type of
commitment ceremony. Often when we enter into a relationship, we allow our
emotions to lead us forward without thinking more deeply about what true
commitment involves. If we can understand that sharing our lives with another
person is not just based on love but also on the hard work of being able to
compromise and enter into a dialogue with them, then we are much more likely
to find the key to having a successful relationship with our partners. So
many people have not experienced a loving relationship between their own
parents and therefore have no role model of what love should feel like or
look like. Many of us have been exposed to the idea
that love should be romantic and sweep us off our feet. While this is a
natural part of any relationship, the true test of our love comes from our
willingness to explore this world with another person; to not only share in
the delights that we encounter but also to negotiate the bumps in the road
together. Generally this often takes the form of a mutual exchange of ideas,
but because any relationship is based on the needs and experiences of two
people, we might also face a certain amount of misunderstanding. Learning to
be open and receptive to our partners and to treat their wants and ideas with
respect can help us navigate even the most difficult situations. One way to
do this is to take a deep breath, holding our partner in a space of love, and
allow ourselves to listen fully with our hearts to what they have to say.
Should this become difficult to do, we can also turn toward people whose
relationships we admire for advice or guidance. Knowing that there are
resources out there to help us and being up for exploring them with our
partner will only serve to deepen and strengthen our relationship. Entering into a committed relationship is
in fact a spiritual journey that we undertake with another person. By being
able to love and care for someone else with an open heart, we will find that
we can reach a greater level of personal transformation, evolving along our
path and learning powerful lessons about ourselves that we might not
otherwise be able to do on our own. |
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