I’ve
been in CoDA for about 1.5 years. As I’ve grown in CoDA, I’ve noticed that
setting boundaries has really improved my self-esteem. Anything from not
interpreting Spanish at work when there are interpreters available (as it is
not in my job description) to walking away from unequal relationships.
I’ve
been single for five years and really interested in sharing my life with
someone; however, I’m not willing to settle. I met a girl who was seven years
sober in the same program as I was. She was funny, she was attractive, and she
complimented me. However, as we began to communicate, I noticed she would take
hours to reply to my texts and sometimes not reply at all. Honestly, the truth
is I wasn’t willing to accept that behavior. So, I told her that I was looking
for somebody with more time with whom to share my life, and I walked away.
It
was difficult to do, as I’ve been wanting to be in a relationship for years
now, and she had some great qualities; but CoDA has taught me not to settle for
crumbs. If I allow my time to be consumed by someone who is unavailable, I
might miss the opportunity to connect with someone who is.
OJR
1/1/22
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