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Many of us are going through our lives aware of a well of pain underlying our
daily awareness that we've felt for so long we aren't even sure where it comes
from. It almost seems as if it's part of who we are, or the way we see the
world, but it's important to realize that this pain is something that needs
to be acknowledged and processed. The longer we sit on it, the harder it is
to work through, and the more likely it is that we will be forced to
acknowledge it as it makes itself known to us in ways we can't predict.
Rather than waiting for this to happen, we can empower ourselves by
identifying the pain and resolving to take action toward healing it.
The very thought of this brings up feelings of resistance in most of us,
especially if, on the surface, our lives seem to be in order. It's difficult
to dig up the past and go into it unless we are being seriously
inconvenienced by the hurt. The thing is, when we are carrying the burden of
our unprocessed pain, sooner or later, it will inconvenience us. If we can be
brave and proactive, we can save ourselves a lot of future suffering and free
up the energy that is tied up in keeping the pain down.
There are many ways to do this, but the first step is to recognize the pain
and honor it by moving our awareness into it. In this process, even if it's
just five minutes during meditation, we will begin to have a sense of what
the pain is made of. It might be fear of abandonment, childhood abuse, anger
at being mistreated, or some other long held wound. As we sit with the pain,
we will also have a sense of whether we can deal with it by ourselves, or
not. It may be time to work with a counselor, or form a healing circle with
close friends. Whatever path you choose, resolve to go deep into the pain, so
that you can release it fully, and set yourself free. Remember, it is never
too late in life to heal what hurts, and there is never a better time than
now.
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