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Though we make many commitments throughout
our time on Earth, few have a lifelong impact on the path our lives will
take. The decision to marry someone you love — to bond yourself to them
completely — is unlike any other and can reshape your existence. When two
people have similar goals, values, and needs, marriage can result in a
lifetime partnership of love and respect, shared laughter and tears,
friendship, and intimacy that is ultimately fulfilling. Love is often cited
as the sole prerequisite for a strong and stable married life. However, the
decision to get married should be made with the mind and the soul, as well as
with the heart. Carefully considering whether you truly want to get married,
both individually and as a couple, can ensure that if you do choose to marry,
your relationship can grow to unimaginable depths. The decision-making process you employ to
determine whether you should marry should be a thoughtful and honest one in
which you appraise not only your partner but also yourself. Consider that
love and attraction do not guarantee long-term compatibility. If your
relationship is not secure, marriage will not make it so. Likewise, if your
partner is not as attentive, loving, or kind as you would like, becoming
spouses will not change that. Marriage has no power to permanently fill any
emotional or spiritual gaps in your life. Before you choose to marry, ask
yourself whether you and your partner are adept at resolving conflict, can
speak openly to one another, and fully respect one another. Your attitudes
regarding the nature of marital commitment, children and child rearing, and
marital roles may be the same, or they may differ. It is your shared
responsibility to discuss your similarities and come to agreements regarding
your differences that will predict how successful your future marriage will
be. Oftentimes, younger couples rush into marriage just for the wedding
dress, the ring, the party, and the honeymoon. Would you still be willing to
be married if you couldn’t have these things? Remember that planning a wedding is simple
when compared to the intricacies of nurturing a marriage. The honeymoon and
nesting period will eventually wear off, and what you are left with is a
partner for life. When you work together, reassure and support one another,
and are honest about your feelings regarding marriage, you’ll come to the
right decision. |
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