Space for Me in the World
I always thought
that I was so sweet, compassionate and empathetic in my relationships and that
I was really there for people, and who wouldn’t want that? Why was I not
appreciated and why did I feel such crushing resentment towards those I loved?
Why did I feel I didn’t belong?
As I worked my
CoDA program, I realized that people-pleasing, playing small and not creating
healthy boundaries did not make me a likable person. I learned that nobody
really ever got to know me because I was a chameleon trying to be what
everybody wanted, to avoid confrontation, to be needed and loved.
I also learned
in CoDA that the world wasn’t at fault and needed to improve! At first, that
was a tough lesson, but as I continued to work the Steps, go to meetings,
strengthen my recovery with my sponsor and practice the tools in real life, I
realized that it’s much more manageable (and realistic) for me to change my
perception and thoughts, improve my communication skills, and with my Higher
Power, release my character defects, than to expect and want the whole world to
change!
I feel more
peace in my life than ever and my relationships are improving. I feel a sense
of excitement and curiosity about life and people that I haven’t felt in a long
time! And I’m finally starting to claim space in the world that was always
intended for me!
The CoDA program
is working for me because I’m working it.
Patricia T.
02.26.2026
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