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Excuses may seem like rational reasons
for us not to do something, but if we’re not careful, we can allow them
to keep us from reaching our goals. Too often we accept our excuses as
reasons why we cannot accomplish what we set out to do, and instead of finding
alternatives, we give up. But if we can be honest with ourselves and take
responsibility for our choices, we will begin to notice that we no longer
give excuses. When we keep our minds focused on our goals, we will find
that excuses fade away in the light of our priorities, and issues become
challenges that can help us become wiser and stronger.
Sometimes we may give others excuses
rather than be fully honest. We may think it is kind to tell someone we
are willing to do something with them, whether work or play, but then
keep putting them off. This diverts our energy into keeping the truth at
a distance while continuing a falsehood. But when we can take
responsibility for our feelings and express them honestly but gently, the
other person is free to find someone who is better suited to accompany
them while we are free to pursue the things we like. When we can do this,
our energy can be invested in building better lives and relationships.
There’s another way in which excuses
rob us of energy — and that is in the power of our thoughts and words.
For example, if we find ourselves in a situation where we are being asked
for a financial contribution but we use the excuse that we can’t afford it,
we create and attract lack and limitation into our lives. The same goes
for seemingly simple things like pretending to not feel well or any other
false statement. We may think that excuses make things easier, but they
complicate matters with smokescreens. When we can commit to our
priorities, take responsibility for our choices, and communicate them
honestly to others, there will be no need to make excuses, and we will
have much more energy to dedicate to all the things we love.
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