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Loving and committing to another person
is a spiritual process — whether it involves a wedding or any other type
of commitment ceremony. Often when we enter into a relationship, we allow
our emotions to lead us forward without thinking more deeply about what
true commitment involves. If we can understand that sharing our lives
with another person is not just based on love but also on the hard work
of being able to compromise and enter into a dialogue with them, then we
are much more likely to have a successful relationship with our partners.
Some have not witnessed a loving relationship between their own parents,
and therefore, have no role model of what love should feel like or look
like.
Many of us have been exposed to the
idea that love should be romantic and sweep us off our feet. While this
is a natural part of any relationship, the true test of our love comes
from our willingness to explore this world with another person — to not
only share in the delights that we encounter but also to negotiate the
bumps in the road together. This often takes the form of a mutual
exchange of ideas, but because any relationship is based on the needs and
experiences of two people, we also might face a certain amount of
misunderstanding. Learning to be open and receptive to our partners and
to treat their wants and ideas with respect can help us navigate even the
most difficult situations. One way to do this is to take a deep breath,
holding our partner in a space of love, and allow ourselves to listen
fully with our hearts to what they have to say. Should this become
difficult to do, we also can turn toward people whose relationships we
admire for advice or guidance. Knowing that there are resources out there
to help us and exploring them with our partner will deepen and strengthen
our relationship.
Entering into a committed relationship
is in fact a spiritual journey that we undertake with another person. By
being able to love and care for someone else with an open heart, we will
find that we can reach a greater level of personal transformation, evolving
along our path and learning powerful lessons about ourselves that we
might not otherwise be able to do on our own.
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