Wednesday 31 March 2021

Pity

 


"When a person has pity on all living creatures, only then is one noble." - Buddhist Saying

We all need each other. More than this, we need to help and sustain each other.This concept extends beyond human beings, for the world is full of other creatures God has made that make our lives fascinating and entertaining.Animals and plants constitute our ecological history, yet we often rob and hurt our environment. Recovery from alcoholism means more than putting down the drink.Today I adopt a responsible attitude that makes me care, on a spiritual level, for my world.

God, as I look around my world, I cannot help but honor You.

On this day of your life

 

I believe God wants you to know ...

 

... that you need to make a commitment and, once you

make it, then life will give you some answers.

 

Les Brown said that, and he was right. And making a

commitment means more than saying "I'll try." It means

saying "I'm all in. I'm totally committed here. Even if

the going gets rough. In fact, especially then."

 

Someone once said, aging puts wrinkles on the body.

Quitting puts wrinkles on the soul.

 

You will not have to think but a second to know

exactly why you received this message today.

CoDA Weekly Reading

 

In my worst of times, after naming the issue codependency, for relief I used to wait on the edge of my seat for Tuesday's CoDA readings. I used to cry a lot and wished that everyone understood my pain. Sometimes I pictured myself drawing and spelling my pain out to all my loved ones, in the forms of tantrums and self-sabotaging disasters.

Now it's been two years since I joined and I would like to claim I feel healed in many places, but perhaps not ever yet fully. I catch myself all the time, wondering if I should feel responsible for other people's emotions, or flat out just searching for something to worry about.

I find myself telling myself often, "remember that's the codependency", and then do everything in my power to shift the behavior or thoughts into "the now". And I often find "the now" typically has nothing to do with where my mind habitually craves diving into.

Missing my father, taking care of my mother, allowing abuse from my ex.

Sometimes I stop to remember that my mother learned codependency and she didn't mean to pass it down, and this helps me because it's all about "the now" and “the now" doesn't so much follow the path your mind dives into.

"The now" keeps moving, waiting for you to get on board. And when you do get on board, even for moments at a time, you take control of the only thing you have in this precious world, the magic of now.

 

Best Regards,

Monica M. - 12/29/20

Slowing Down: The Complex Art of Doing Nothing.

 


Try it now. Stop everything and do nothing.

How long did you last?

A confession, I count in my shortlist of credible lifetime achievements the ability to simply do nothing. It took some serious energy investment, and when last I tried, I managed an astounding 30 minutes.

I feel I should be doing better, as someone who has spent 10 years of traveling long-haul and wasted countless hours in airport lounges doing something.

In the interest of transparency, I am new here.

I have journeyed here from a life in corporate business land, far away from the mindful life. It came to be in 2020 that I was made redundant. Lucky break, I know.

Now, I find myself with opportunities to try all manner of crazy experiments, like publishing to a mindful creative space and, of course, trying to perfect the art of doing nothing.

I have taken no classes, only scribbled passing thoughts caught when attempting to perfect idleness. Such musings, until now, were fated to live forever unseen on a document drive labeled “do not share,” with no backup arrangements in place.

Outside of my direct experiences, subject matter research comes from watching Netflix, YouTube, and reading.

I have always been an avid reader. It is still the perfect escape mechanism for me, which, along the way, by sheer luck, has led me to insights about the world around me and allowed me access to the beautiful minds of all kinds of writers.

The conditioning to be active begins when we come into existence.

Indeed, it is so intrinsic in our nature that I have often wondered if this restlessness gave momentum to the first idle cells to divide. Whatever the cause, since then, nature has gifted us seamlessly automatic responses from ancient roots whose primary interests were only survival, often only to reproduce.

Fast-forward to today, and a more significant proportion of conditioning seems to come from the perspectives gathered by the wider community. Usually handed down the generations to contribute to our personal and collective survival and growth somehow.

To some, it is clear that we seem to have gotten distracted and gone way off the beaten track on this path to alleged growth, security, and prosperity.

Increasingly, it seems we inadvertently accepted terms and conditions that flashed like lightning before we could blink them to awareness and have all agreed that collective destruction and competition is the healthy way forward.

Even here, in the mindful life space, where the motivation is to help yourself, others, or the planet, competition exists.

To write better, to learn, and to promote. My profile page already reminding me of my lifetime contributions, measured in hearts and followers. I’ll save you the search time. I have neither.

I wonder if there are perhaps more compassionate ways and models to encourage the silent to step forward with their truths? Or ways of normalizing doing nothing so that they may even reach their source.

My first experience of indulging in doing nothing came from traditional meditation.

The traditional form where you sit and try to stop thoughts or follow your breath. However, I realized I am still doing. It takes effort to become effortless here, and even then, it is hit or miss depending on an infinite number of variable conditions in any given moment—and like most vices in life, it is prone to addiction.

I have mostly unconsciously and sometimes consciously steered myself to accept the path of least resistance. Excuses given were: it’s not that bad, it is so much easier, and it is a lot of temporary fun.

Like many on the path before me, interventions of mystics and minimalists guided me back.

The experience is much like that with Lakitu. He is a “Mario Kart” character who floats around with a sign that flashes “wrong direction.” He persistently appears until the vehicle is either turned around or veers off the road into a bottomless valley. The valley option is also present when driving in the correct direction. As you endlessly fall into nothingness, he kindly manifests again to gently place you back in the middle of the road, always facing the right direction.

And the message is always simple: Stop. Do nothing. You are enough. There is enough. Now is enough.

It is with this message I want to say namaste. And, if you hear from me no more, perhaps it is because I finally mastered the complex art of doing nothing at all.

Now, I ask for only one more moment—let’s stop together to do nothing for another moment.

No attachment to breath or thought

I wait for you in silence.

In darkness filled with speckles of light

Surrounded by love and emptiness.

~


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AUTHOR: KAJAL PATEL

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How These 7 Quotes by Vincent Van Gogh Helped me Turn my Life Around.

 


The first thing you will notice on my MacBook is the Starry Night sticker, which I have intentionally placed there to remind me of these quotes.

I grew up around paintbrushes and canvases since my mother secured a livelihood by selling her artwork. However, despite having always been an artist at heart, I haven’t really appreciated art—until I discovered Van Gogh.

I was in my 20s when I “met” him at a bookstore on the Champs-Élysées. I came back home with the book to find out that my sister—who is also an artist—was studying the work of Van Gogh at college and was obsessed with him. We watched the movie “Lust for Life” together, and she introduced me to his style, life, and artwork.

Other than relating to some areas in his life, like his struggle, addiction, intensity, bond with his sibling, and pain, I could also relate to Van Gogh’s work, but it took me a while to decode the how and why.

So here are the seven quotes that helped me turn my life around when I could, and accept it when I couldn’t:

“I dream my painting and I paint my dream.”

No life should be lived haphazardly. When we are mindful, know what we want, dream it, and act on it, dreams turn to goals, then turn to reality. We can paint it one brushstroke at a time. A bucket of water can be filled drop after drop. This is how I achieve my goals today, one day at a time.

“Normality is a paved road: it’s comfortable to walk, but no flowers grow on it.”

Van Gogh had a tough life, no doubt, but so do we—all different yet all the same. If there is one thing I’ve learned, it would be this: nothing easy is worth having. Comfort is nice, but nothing grows in a comfort zone. If I had stayed in my comfort zone, writing in my diary for myself, not daring to have a voice and share my stories, you wouldn’t be reading this, and I wouldn’t have been of any benefit.

“If I am worth anything later, I am worth something now. For wheat is wheat, even if people think it is a grass in the beginning.”

Unfortunately, Van Gogh’s genius was not acknowledged during his lifetime—only after his death. It doesn’t make it any less, though. Consequently, I keep reminding myself to do good with whatever I have and give my best even when I am not validated. Trust me, I know how hard it can be. Self-motivation is the hardest thing we, humans, have time after time.

“So often, a visit to a bookshop has cheered me and reminded me that there are good things in the world.”

If you ask anyone who knows me, even a distant acquaintance, to tell you what’s the one thing that reminds them of me, most would answer “books.” Van Gogh had a way with words too. His collection of heartfelt letters, mostly to his brother Theo, could be easily considered a masterpiece of its own. And let me tell you from experience, only avid readers can write like this.

“Your profession is not what brings home your weekly paycheck, your profession is what you’re put here on earth to do, with such passion and such intensity that it becomes spiritual in calling.”

Like Van Gogh, most of us did not grow financially rich—some of us have been even struggling for most of our lives, stuck in jobs that suck the life out of us. However, when we find our true passion (whatever that is), start living our truth, put our heart, mind, and soul into it, only then would we find our calling—our purpose. It is not an easy venture either—believe it or not, Van Gogh tried finding it in priesthood at first. I wanted to become a nun at one point in my life (don’t ask).

“Whoever loves much, performs much, and can accomplish much, and what is done in love is done well.”

Check my bio on Elephant Journal—you’ll know what I am talking about. When I talk about love and passion, people instantly assume romance—which is beautiful, but it’s only a part of that universal force. Try cooking with love and you will see what Van Gogh was talking about. Anything we do with love can never fail, even when the end result or the benefits are not tangible and instant.

What am I in the eyes of most people—a nonentity, an eccentric, or an unpleasant person—somebody who has no position in society and will never have; in short, the lowest of the low. All right, then—even if that were absolutely true, then I should one day like to show by my work what such an eccentric, such a nobody, has in his heart. That is my ambition, based less on resentment than on love in spite of everything, based more on a feeling of serenity than on passion. Though I am often in the depths of misery, there is still calmness, pure harmony, and music inside me. I see paintings or drawings in the poorest cottages, in the dirtiest corners. And my mind is driven toward these things with an irresistible momentum.”

Self-worth…who doesn’t struggle with that? In the movie, “Loving Vincent,” one of the characters referred to Van Gogh as the “crazy red,” while another as “mad,” and a third as “interesting man.” Perceptions might be true, at times, but are mostly just that. Today, years after his death, his talent is recognized and his artwork is worth millions and billions, although it was his heart that was priceless all along—the unappreciated and underrated human heart.

I spent hours watching videos on pointillism, thinking how our lives are built on this concept. The small things we do and those that happen day in and day out look blurry and like silly, little dots that do not make sense until we see the big picture and finally understand how connected these mishaps, joyful moments, and even plain routines, are.

They all blend and turn out to be necessary if we want to have a breathtaking masterpiece we can call “full life.”

~

 


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Rita Wehbe  |  Contribution: 52,445

AUTHOR: RITA WEHBE

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NUGGETS OF WISDOM - 366

 

  • ·       "Creature mind must exhibit the worship outreach and indicate wisdom function by exhibiting the ability to choose between the emerging values of good and evil----- moral choice."

    ·       "Wine that maketh glad the heart of humankind." Psalm 104:15

    ·       “How you look at it is pretty much how you’ll see it.” — Rasheed Ogunlaru

    ·       "[Jesus] unifies life, ennobles character, and simplifies experience. He enters the human mind to elevate, transform, and transfigure it.

    ·       The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. - Eleanor Roosevelt

    ·       “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” — Viktor Frankl

    ·       "It is sometimes possible to have the mind illuminated, to hear the divine voice that continually speaks within you, so that you may become partially conscious of the wisdom, truth, goodness, and beauty of the potential personality constantly indwelling you."

    ·       Not everything that is forced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is forced. - James Baldwin

    ·       "The soul of man is an experiential acquirement. As a mortal creature chooses to 'do the will of the Father in heaven,' so the indwelling spirit becomes the father of a new reality in human experience."


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