Sunday 26 June 2022

Clearing Indignation

 


(AND IT'S NOT NEARLY AS TAXING AS A BUNCH OF SANCTIMONIOUS HUFFING AND PUFFING.)

It clears the way to extraordinary growth.

When you feel wronged, skip the righteous indignation and go straight to compassion and forgiveness.

What We Believe Is What We See (KB)

 


Karen Berg
JUNE 12, 2022

This article on the portion of the week was originally published in 2020.

Have you ever noticed how an interview sometimes says more about the person asking the questions than the one who is answering? I’ve been interviewed for a few magazines and news programs myself recently. I’m always grateful for the opportunity to speak about the things that are close to my heart: Kabbalah, Global Spirituality, and creating communities around the world through which individuals can both be enlightened and lift each other up in friendship and unity. But the ‘slant’ is often found more in the questions than in the answers. For instance, one could ask, “Who are you? What do you believe in?” and another might ask, “Who do you think you are? What do you know?” The questions seek the same answers, and yet one is posed with genuine curiosity and an openness to learn, while the other is served cold with a combative nature.

So… is one right and the other wrong? Not necessarily. In fact, a healthy dose of skepticism can be good to have in certain situations. What is fascinating to me is how a single preconceived notion can lock us into certain ways of thinking. Our capacity to learn is limited only by that which we think we already know.

This sense of bias is not reserved for journalism alone. It is human nature to pre-judge a person or a situation at first sight. Heck, sometimes we do it before we even come face to face with them. We think, “This one’s good,” and “This thing’s bad.” We think what we see is absolute truth, but no. What we see is a result of what we believe to be true.

It reminds me of a famous parable, a story of a student who comes to meet his teacher for the first time. The teacher pours him a cup of a tea and as he fills it, the student’s cup begins to overflow. Nonetheless, the teacher continues to pour. The student is taken aback, and rightfully so! He is soaking in tea, and the teacher is still pouring! “What are you doing?!” he asks the teacher.

“You are like this cup,” says the wise sage. “I cannot teach you until you empty yourself of all that you think you already know.”

In this week’s portion of Shlach Lecha, the Creator tells the Israelites, “Go into the land of Israel. It will be good for you.” Yet, when Moses sends men to spy on the land, they bring back reports that it is a terrible place. There are many commentaries on this issue. Some believe the spies lied because they knew going into Israel would mean losing Moses as a leader, and they were afraid. Others believe it was due to their own ego. Whatever the case, what they saw was based on their own fearful beliefs. They believed to go into Israel would be their ruin, and so when they looked upon the land all that they saw was negative.

We are the same. What we believe to be negative, we will surely see and experience as such. Whereas, when we know there is the Creator’s hand in everything and acknowledge the Light that abides within all people and circumstances, we see the good and therefore can experience good.

This week, empty your cup. Forget what you think you know. Be open to seeing people as you’ve never seen them before. Be willing to try new things. Let go of preconceived notions and enter into all situations knowing that they will be for the best. We don’t need to be a journalist to benefit from letting go of our biases, our judgments, and our prejudices.

This is also a powerful week to build our self-esteem. Remember what others say or believe about you says a lot more about them than it does about you. And vice versa! What you believe to be true of others says more about you than it does about them.

When we know there is good in all things and all people, we will always experience the best life has to offer.

Now Is The Time For The Forces Of Light To Link Together (EC)

 



A time of linking together is now taking place. Little groups and individuals can no longer function on their own, now is the time for the forces of light to link together, forming an unbreakable bond. This linking up will take many forms; be not critical of any form, do not think that your way is the only way, for there are many ways. Therefore be very tolerant, very loving, very patient, and have deep understanding, but at the same time let each one seek deep within for the answer for them, and not just accept what someone else says, or someone else voices. What is healthy to one may be poison to another.

On this day of your life

 


I believe God wants you to know ...

 

... that it may seem that you cannot control exterior

circumstances, but you can always control interior ones.

 

Your internal world -- the reality that you encounter

within your mind and emotions -- is a world that you

and only you control and create.

 

How you experience everything is up to you. Your

reactions need not be automatic or similar to ones you

have had before.

Putting People on a Pedestal (OM)

 


 

When you put somebody on a pedestal, it is giving away your power and saying you are not good enough.



When we fall in love with someone or make a new friend, we sometimes see that person in a glowing light. Their good qualities dominate the foreground of our perception and their negative qualities. They just don’t seem to have any. This temporary state of grace is commonly known as putting someone on a pedestal. Often times we put spiritual leaders and our gurus on pedestals. We have all done this to someone at one time or another, and as long as we remember that no one is actually “perfect,” the pedestal phase of a relationship can be enjoyed for what it is -- a phase. It’s when we actually believe our own projection that troubles arise. 

Everyone has problems, flaws, and blind spots, just as we do. When we entertain the illusion that someone is perfect, we don’t allow them room to be human, so when they make an error in judgment or act in contradiction to our idea of perfection, we become disillusioned. We may get angry or distance ourselves in response. In the end, they are not to blame for the fact that we idealized them. Granted, they may have enjoyed seeing themselves as perfect through our eyes, but we are the ones who chose to believe an illusion. If you go through this process enough times, you learn that no one is perfect. We are all a combination of divine and human qualities and we all struggle. When we treat the people we love with this awareness, we actually allow for a much greater intimacy than when we held them aloft on an airy throne. The moment you see through your idealized projection is the moment you begin to see your loved one as he or she truly is. 

We cannot truly connect with a person when we idealize them. In life, there are no pedestals -- we are all walking on the same ground together. When we realize this, we can own our own divinity and our humanity. This is the key to balance and wholeness within ourselves and our relationships.  

15 Osho Quotes to Awaken Your Heart.

 


 

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When I read Osho’s words, it’s like I feel space inside me expand.

I soften.

His words and how he speaks about life are so different from the culture, the world, that I (and so many of us) grew up in—where we’re conditioned to believe we must be a certain way, where things are good and bad, where we’re made to feel “bad” if we don’t do or feel what’s idealized as “good.”

But Osho will say, “Just be who you are.”

Just be.

Just live.

Just be who you are.

I think the world would be a much more beautiful place if we lived like this—with the softness, the lightness, the acceptance.

Here are 15 Osho quotes to awaken your heart:

1. “With me, illusions are bound to be shattered. I am here to shatter all illusions. Yes, it will irritate you, it will annoy you – that’s my way of functioning and working. I will sabotage you from your very roots! Unless you are totally destroyed as a mind, there is no hope for you.”

2. “Don’t seek, don’t search, don’t ask, don’t knock, don’t demand—relax. If you relax it comes, if you relax it is there. If you relax, you start vibrating with it.”

3. “Go inwards. Find your inner space, and suddenly, you will find an explosion of light, of beauty, of ecstasy — as if suddenly thousands of roses have blossomed within you and you are full of their fragrance.”

4. “Love is wild; its whole beauty is in its wildness. It comes like a breeze with great fragrance, fills your heart, and suddenly where there was a desert there is a garden full of flowers.”

5. “Commit as many mistakes as possible, remembering only one thing: don’t commit the same mistake again. And you will be growing.”

6. “Just look at life with more playful eyes. Don’t be serious. Seriousness becomes like a blindness. Don’t pretend to be a thinker, a philosopher. Just simply be a human being. The whole world is showering its joy on you in so many ways, but you are too serious, you cannot open your heart.”

7. “You should live in the world but remain untouched by it. You should remain in the world, but the world should not remain in you.”

8. “Tantra says that unless you are filled with light, how can you help others to be enlightened? Be selfish; only then can you be altruistic. Otherwise the whole concept of altruism is nonsense. Be happy; only then can you help others to be happy. If you are sad, unhappy, bitter, you are going to be violent with others and you will create misery for others.”

9. “When one surrenders, one becomes like a valley. One becomes depth, not height. Then the whole existence begins to pour into him from everywhere. He is just a vacuum, just a depth, an abyss, bottomless. The whole existence begins to pour from everywhere.”

10. “Drop the idea of becoming someone, because you are already a masterpiece. You cannot be improved. You have only to come to it, to know it, to realize it.”

11. “You feel good, you feel bad, and these feelings are bubbling from your own unconsciousness, from your own past. Nobody is responsible except you. Nobody can make you angry, and nobody can make you happy.”

12. “The less people know, the more stubbornly they know it.”

13. “Truth is not something outside to be discovered, it is something inside to be realized.”

14. “My whole love and respect is for the person who accepts himself totally, as he is. He has courage. He has courage to face the whole pressure of the society which is bent upon splitting him into divisions — into good and bad, into saint and sinner. He is really a brave, courageous being who stands against the whole history of man, of morality, and declares to the skies his reality, whatever it is.”

15. “Buddha is a Buddha, a Krishna is a Krishna, and you are you. And you are not in any way less than anybody else. Respect yourself, respect your own inner voice and follow it.”

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NUGGETS OF WISDOM - 782


  • ·       The wise man is neither raised up by prosperity nor cast down by adversity; for always he has striven to rely predominantly on himself, and to derive all joy from himself. - Seneca

    ·       "My life has been nothing but a failure." - Claude Monet

    ·       God, the only real failure is not seeing You in my life.

    ·       "Hatred paralyzes life; love releases it. Hatred confuses life; love harmonizes it. Hatred darkens life; love illuminates it." ~ Martin Luther King, Jr.

    ·       "You mortals are the sons of God, and only one thing is required to make such a truth factual in your personal experience, and that is your spirit-born faith."

    ·       One day you will realize that material things mean nothing. All that matters is the well-being and happiness of the people you love in your life. - Ken Rutkowski

    ·       No legacy is so rich as honesty. - William Shakespeare

    ·       I seek to live an honest life on a daily basis.

    ·       "He is the greatest of warriors who overcomes and subdues himself." – Buddhism

    ·       Pride divides the men, humility joins them. - Socrates

    ·       There is a paradox in pride: It make some ridiculous, but prevents others from becoming so. - Charles Caleb Colton

    ·       God, Let me always treat pride with respect and be mindful of its destructive attribute.

    ·       "Fear and guilt are the only enemies of man."


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Saturday 25 June 2022

Today

 


"Real generosity toward the future consists in giving all to what is present." Albert Camus

Much of the gratitude I talk about needs to be centered in what I do with today. I consciously focus on the present, rather than procrastinating for the future. As a sick alcoholic, I either lived in the guilt of yesterday or the fear of tomorrow. I missed the reality of the present. The present moment is all I have. Through this moment, I live, breathe, and have my existence! My understanding of prayer is centered in the present moment because any understanding of relationship and communication, especially with God, must begin from where I am, rather than where I would like to be. Spirituality is the reality of the moment.

Spirit of the universe, thank You for the life I experience in the moment.

How To Find Your Calling After Everything You’ve Been Through

 Today I want to talk to you about something inspirational – finding your calling after everything that you’ve been through – and I’d love to share with you my personal story, with my heartfelt desire that it can help you.

Narcissistic abuse is an extreme situation of going through the depths of darkness, forcing us to harness and heal back to The Light. As this Light we can also help others, through our direct experiences, to find their Light as well. Not just from a textbook understanding, but from our own lived Soul experience.

 

Did We Go Through All Of This For Nothing?

Many years ago I remember being inspired by individuals who had been through absolute tragedy, who started living their life purpose as a result of it.

I personally met an incredible woman who had lost three children through separate events, who started an organisation for bereaved parents.

She was spiritual … incredible. I thought to myself, “How on earth could this woman go on after such trauma …. unspeakable trauma … not once but three times?” I asked her how she did this. With incredible love in her eyes and truth flowing outwards from her heart, she said, “I know my children are my angels. I know I’ve been with them many times and will be again and that I am eternally with them. This gives me comfort, and I want other parents who have gone through this to feel the same, and live their purpose of love for themselves and their surviving loved ones.”

I’ll never forget how this moment imprinted my psyche, as the ultimate “overcoming”. At this time I had no idea that my own “overcoming” was to come; not her unspeakable horror that every parent dreads, yet it was going to be the most significant battle of my life. And, it wasn’t until much later that I realised I also had at some Soul level been granted the opportunity to live out my true contribution, as a result of this trauma, on this planet as well.

At the time of writing this article I had my final lesson with my 10 week Thrive Bootcamp Members, where a member asked, “How do you find your life purpose?”

The conversation that unfolded in our Thrive Group was that usually our life purpose is not something that we logically choose – it chooses us. It chooses us through life circumstances, because we would NEVER logically choose it, and until these life events we would never be equipped for it either.

If we would logically choose it – we would have done so already!

So many people have the gut feeling and even heart burning mission of sharing, teaching and granting relief of a breakthrough awareness, product or a system that made a spectacular difference to their own lives. The thought of that lights up their hearts. It’s exciting, it feels right! They know they don’t want to just work for someone in a job that is unfulfilling to their Soul.

Yet – try telling that to the logical brain which has expectations, is fixated on outcomes and fears the “what if’s”!

Of course our programmed “mind” asks …

“How am I am going to make money from this?”

“What will other people think?”

“What if I can’t maintain my mortgage, bills, and lifestyle options?”

And …

“What will I need to give up in my life to make this happen?”

“What if I don’t want to make the sacrifice.”

“Do I even have the resources and ability to make this happen?”

“What if I fail?”

Then they fall back into what I believe are “uncomfortable comfort zones”. It all seems too hard, and not possible, so we can carry on doing what we have always done for a vocation, even though we feel like something is terribly missing.

Did we have our life-experiences for nothing? Were they just for ourselves?

I believe Source and our Soul has a greater plan for us than that! 

How To Align With Your Source-Filled Vocation

I hope that by sharing my story I can inspire you to find your true vocation as well.

As a result of narcissistic abuse I materially lost almost everything – all that I had worked so hard for, for 40 years of my life. I also lost my colleagues, support from my family, including my son, all but one close friend, and then my health, my sanity and almost my life.

As a result of finally starting healing from the inside out, mental and physical conditions that the medical profession had told me were “unhealable”, I started to have a powerful urge to share the revelations that were helping me.

That was all it was at this point – a powerful urge.

I was still deeply in my recovery. I could not ignore it for even one day because I was clawing my way out of a complete psychotic and adrenal breakdown with inner energetic healing and radical loving self-partnering.

Logic was unimportant. What people thought was unimportant. Anything other than basic survival needs were unimportant. The only thing that was important was making sure I had basic needs met (many which I had to accept outside help for) and the healing and recovery of my own Soul.

Yet, there was this strong urge to write some articles and put them out over the net. I found doing this was also helping my own healing. It brought added purpose to what I was going through.

People started responded from all over the world. They had experienced my experience. They were open to looking at a different model of “inside out” resurrection, rather than the traditional “victim / no hope of recovery” model. That had been my intention, to share this different “way” to heal.

Then as I kept healing myself and studying energetic healing modalities, I started attracting people who needed to heal from abuse. I started sharing my healing protocols with them. This was also organic. One of my clients suggested I create a website for my healing from abuse, and put me in contact with a wonderful woman who had also been narcissistically abused.

I stayed open, receptive and learning in regard to my own healing, and information, synchronicity and miracles kept turning up. Things like financial prosperity and lifestyle were the last things on my mind. Saving my Soul and getting better was my highest focus, as well as sharing what I was learning with others – because I now knew that narcissistic abuse was an epidemic.

When I finally cracked the code to Quanta Freedom Healing for myself, because I so desperately wanted to be freed from a crippling agoraphobic condition, I knew I needed to introduce my clients to this healing method as well.

What happened next was something I could have never predicted – my healing clients exploded through word of mouth. I had psychologists, domestic abuse workers and other professionals contact me and ask me, “What happened to my client. They were stuck and traumatised and it’s like this is a different person?!”

I was also starting to be contacted by people overseas. I tried doing healings over Skype and discovered the process worked just as well. Before I knew it I was booked out months in advance with numerous clients every day.

Then the gut feeling came – there needs to be a Program where people can access Quanta Freedom Healing, because I can’t heal enough people one-on-one. I’d learned by now not to go into my mind and question things. I had always been inspired by what Louise Hay said when asked how Hay House came into being. She said, “I just opened the mail and answered the phone.”

I just showed up – I trusted what I was feeling and sensing. I had NO idea how to create a Program, put it together, or even if Quanta Freedom Healing would in recordings shift people’s subconscious programs. I was led. The right answers came, the “way” was shown and in amongst it all, all I ever had was a sense of the step just in front of me … nothing more.

I recorded a healing, just “knowing” how to visualise energy imprints into the healing – I let some of my clients use it to experiment and they had powerful shifting results. It actually turned out better for them. Rather than waiting to have a once a week healing with me, they could do numerous healings whenever they wished. They saved money and time with accelerated results and I was able to spread my energy out much further to many more people without depleting my energy the way I previously was.

I knew this Program – The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program (NARP) – which was helping people heal for real needed to go out to the world. What came next was one of the most inspiring, incredible and fulfilling times of my life – albeit arguable one of the most gruelling!

I needed resources and a global website and the back end and front end mechanics to get serious.

Yet how? I was barely computer literate. I had no business creation experience. I didn’t know how to set up an internet business!

I started an internet coaching course that was from the States, meaning I had to wake up at 4am each morning to participate. I was paying thousands of dollars for this Course, and also needed money for the business set up and structures. I kept healing clients 7 days a week to fund this, working through the night, usually 20 hour days and some days I was not even making it to bed.

In amongst all of this, I was writing ebooks, creating all the material myself, recording healings, and dedicated to my own internal healings daily, anytime a triggered trauma appeared in my emotional body.

I had NO idea where any of this was going. I had no attachment to any outcomes and I was just following my gut and doing things that I had never even considered doing before.

The rest is history … my global MTE business now has staff members in many parts of the world, my son is our incredible CEO, we have touched the lives of millions of people, we have over 500,000 subscribers from over 130 different countries, I’ve written a best-selling book and have helped tens of thousands of people become graduates into true Thriving in our incredible NARP Community. Medical and psychology groups, and famous relationship and personal development experts are now my colleagues! People I once admired from a distance!

None of this was planned. I didn’t do any of this to achieve these things. I just did what Louse Hay did, I just showed up. I followed my passion and I did not think in the ways that I used to before making my recovery from narcissistic abuse my highest mission.

My “mind” was out of the way. I was finally for the first time truly free to be “me” – because I followed my Soul.

I certainly wasn’t perfectly healed. I was merely following my Soul and Source.

 

The Shift To Source-Filled Vocation

As I shared with my beautiful Thriver Group last week, the following is necessary for you to create your true calling as the only vocation (and Life) that will truly gratify you.

Your life purpose can often be discovered in these following questions:

“What am I good at that can help others?”

“What is it that I have most needed to learn myself that I can help others overcome also?”

“What lights me up as something I would love to help others with?”

Absolutely, your Life Mission is contribution. It is service! And you must LET GO of all the mind reasons why it can’t happen!

Know that Source wants for you what your Soul wants for you – the BEST life possible and true flourishing for living your Life Purpose.

It’s YOU that is in the way of this – limiting beliefs connected to money, capacity and “issues” that won’t let it work.

Absolutely, hard work and sacrifice is needed. We need to live and put food on the table and keep a roof over our head – be prepared to have 2 jobs when transitioning into your Life Purpose. Please know TRUE passion is NOT like work – especially if you don’t get attached to having to get specific results straight away. The “payment” is the passion and inspiration that you receive from WHO you are “being” and then the energy to “do” becomes phenomenal.

If you are not prepared to give up TV watching, pastimes and other habits of time wasting other than working on yourself and showing up to act on your Soul urge, then your True Mission won’t happen. Are you waiting for it to drop in your lap? Are you waiting for someone else to give it to you?

Of course, it may not be your time to start creating your Life Vocation – you may be where I once was, just absolutely surviving and needing to focus on healing myself. It was when I did get some relief from trauma that space entered as inspiration, and I could finally hear the voice of Source.

It was different after narcissistic abuse and committing to healing from the inside out. My greatest mission was myself, letting go of trauma and filling myself with The Light where the trauma was. Being Soul-focused meant that I wasn’t in my head giving myself all the reasons, justifications or doubting and needing to “run this past others” like I may have done previously.

I just followed and the rest flowed and followed.

With a Source-Filled Life, Source is the way and the way appears

I hope today’s article can also grant you some beautiful and powerful key understandings that can help you do this too.

I’d love to hear from you below!

Does this resonate with you? Can you see now how you may be blocking your true mission and contribution on this planet? Do you have a sense of what it is that you would love to do as your life-expression? Does it feel possible (or maybe even exciting) for you now?