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When we are in a relationship where we
feel listened to and understood, we count ourselves lucky because we know
how rare that experience is. We reserve our most intimate selves for the
people who create an open space where we feel free to express ourselves
and listen without judgment. These relationships, which thrive on open
communication, can mean the difference between existential loneliness and
a deep sense of belonging. We all long to feel heard, understood, and
loved, and clear communication makes this possible.
Sometimes problems arise in the process
of expressing how we feel, but it is always worth it to do the work. Even
in our less intimate relationships, expressing ourselves honestly is
essential to our sense of well-being. Whether at home with family or in
the outside world, successful communication requires some forethought.
Otherwise, we risk blundering through our relationships. However, too
much forethought can stifle us or cause us to pad our words so much that
we end up saying nothing at all or confusing the matter further. The good
news is — there are many methods that can come to our rescue, from
meditation to visualization to journaling.
If the person we need to communicate
with is open to sitting in meditation together for a set period of time
before speaking, this can be invaluable. When we are calm and centered,
we can count on ourselves to speak and respond truthfully. We also can meditate
on our own time and then practice what we need to say. A visualization in
which we sit with the person and lovingly exchange a few words also can
be a great precursor to an actual conversation. If writing comes easily,
we can write out what we need to say. It may take several drafts, but we
will eventually find the words. The key is to find ways to center
ourselves so that we communicate meaningfully, lovingly, and wisely. In
this way, we honor our companions and create relationships where there is
a genuine sense of understanding and respect.
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