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Try not to take everything personally,
things that people say and do don’t always have anything to do with you. Every time you interact with others, you
have the choice to listen to, acknowledge, and let go of their words, or you
can take what they are saying personally. Taking things personally is often
the result of perceiving a person’s actions or words as an affront or slight.
In order to take something personally, you must read negative intent in an
individual’s words or actions. But what people do and say has no bearing upon
you and is usually based on their own experiences, emotions, and perceptions.
If you attempt to take what they do or say personally, you may end up feeling
hurt without reason. If you are tempted to take a comment or
action personally, creating some distance between yourself and the other
person can help you. Try to determine what is at the root of your feelings.
Ask yourself if the other person’s words or actions are just reinforcing some
insecurity within you or if you can really be sure that an offense was
intended. You may even want to ask them what they meant. Finally, put
yourself in the other person’s shoes. Instead of taking their words as the
truth, or as a personal affront, remember that whatever was said or done is
based on their opinion and is more reflective of what is going on inside of
them, rather than having anything to do with you. You may have been an easy
target for someone having a bad day, and their comments may have been offered
with no ill intentions. When you recognize that what anyone says or
does doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with you, you will no longer
feel hurt or attacked. While it’s easy to take things personally, you should
never let anyone’s perceptions or actions affect how you see yourself or your
worth. Your life is personal to you, and it is up to you to influence your
own value and sense of well-being. |
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