People pleasing is an addiction just
like drug, food and alcohol dependency. The difference is approval
addicts seek out people for their fix. People
pleasing is at the core of every self esteem issue. The people pleasing,
approval addict uses acceptance (or non acceptance) of others to
determine their self worth and feel loved. The approval addict
compromises or negates their own needs and moral compass. This behavior
enables others to treat approval addicts like a doormat and the
people pleaser, accepts it. And worse: believes they deserve it.
The first step to recovery is admitting
you have this addiction. Once you own that, recovery from
people pleasing can begin. Awareness of YOUR needs and making that
your priority will slowly replace the need to please others to
feel loved. You will begin to love yourself, and that is a
wonderful feeling.
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