How Thriving Became Effortless

After turning inwards and recovering from narcissistic abuse, no longer was I having obsessive thoughts about the narcissist, and I was supremely grateful for the gift of having returned back home to myself. In so many ways I had more peace and happiness than I’d ever had in my entire life. Yet, I knew a whole new world must exist.  I sensed deep inside that I was at a threshold and that a bigger life was within my reach. I wanted so much MORE! I could feel myself in the future … self generative, confident, able to express and be myself, generating success and wealth, as well as being the physically healthiest I’d ever been. I also desired incredible relationships in my life. I wanted deeper and more authentic connections that were healthy and safe. I also desired connecting with a healthy man and having a successful, loving and supportive intimate love partnership. I wanted to fully express my dream mission and expand into the world contributing with all my heart and soul. I was excited about stepping up for myself and exploring all that was possible! Yet, initially I wasn’t sure how to break through. I’d always been a little timid, and daunted, as well as wondering if I had what it took to be able to express the life that my Inner Self yearned for. So I decided to fully focus on the next steps after narcissistic abuse recovery to take my life even further. When I sat down to work this out, a stream of incredible information came through. I just knew how to work at these next stages (just as I had with narcissistic abuse recovery with NARP) to take my healing journey even further. Becoming Love, Approval and Fullness to Myself It began with working on the fundamentals of self, the Quantum Truths that change everything about not only understanding how life truly works, but also deliver the keys to step into a fulfilling life of fullness and joy. I KNEW that this foundation was the start ... Now, I want to grant you a little mini exercise here to help you get more anchored into your True Self: Exercise Number 1: I want you to ask yourself truthfully if you believe any of the following: My life is controlled by what other people are or aren’t doing and different things happening. My emotions are dictated by things outside of me. I need something to change in order to have power in my life. I don’t blame you for buying into this – these are normal human perceptions. Yet, as Thrivers we need to be extraordinary – especially in these times of such an uncertain world. Now, I want you to say out loud three times ...  “I have the power to release these beliefs, and their corresponding traumas, to become aligned in peace and power NOW. Then all of life follows, regardless of circumstances.” Now I want you to ask yourself ... “How does that feel in my body?” Journal about how it feels for you. Creating Trust and Belief in Myself Next, I knew that to be able to navigate my life effectively, I needed a powerful trust and belief in myself. Now, I know that the shift into powerful Inner Trust is possible for everybody.  Let me share with you the following exercise to help you get started with this … Exercise Number 2: Ask yourself do you have the following integrity with yourself? Self … Trust. Support. Belief. Expression. Soothing. Happiness. Peace. Validation. Now ask yourself,  “What do these things mean to me?”  “Am I stepping in to provide these things to myself?” … and … “What levels of trust would I have for myself if I did?” You will find these answers incredibly revealing and helpful in regard to your self-empowerment. Releasing My Co-dependent Tendencies The next step was to totally get a handle on shifting out of co-dependency, and shoring up my energy and power leaks to be able to generate success and love in my life with healthy others. I also wanted the inner solidness to let go and walk away from people when they weren’t healthy for me. As a result of doing the specific inner work on my co-dependent tendencies my relationships evolved into the most supportive and authentic relationships than I’d ever had in my life. To help you take back your health, energy and power as well, I’d love you to do the following mini-exercise. Exercise Number 3: Have a look at the following Co-dependency Checklist, and answer these questions honestly. They will help you understand what you can focus on healing in order to MASSIVELY Transform your life! Do you spend a lot of time ... Worrying about what other people think of you? Trying to keep people happy so that they will love and approve of you? Analysing other people’s lives? Keeping the peace rather than speaking up? Being affected by other people’s moods? Following other people’s opinions rather than formulating and following your own? Trying to fix and change other people? Now I want you to say the following out loud three times … “I let go. I take my power back. It is safe to anchor into and generate my own truth regardless of anyone or anything outside of me. By doing so, I will flourish and honour The All in the highest of ways.” “How does that feel in my body?” Journal about how it feels for you. Aligning With My Declaration of Self  Then, I got very, very clear about my values and truths, as well is how to generate them.  I knew that this was necessary to move beyond disappointing situations into ones that truly gratified my soul. You can start to create your own defined values and truths so as to begin living them too. A great start to that is by doing the following: Exercise Number 4:  Think of all the painful things that you have received in your life. As a result of narcissistic abuse, we certainly know what these things are. Nasties like betrayal, invalidation, abuse etc. Now as the opposite of these things I want you to write a list. Like this … My Declaration to Self is: Love. Respect. Kindness. Honesty. Start off with say five declarations that are important to you. Now, it is vital for you to embody and BECOME your Declaration to Self, with each point, in order to set up the receiving of it in your life. An example is written below … Love: ‘I will commit to loving myself and to speaking to myself in loving, encouraging and supportive ways. I will expand love as well as be honest with the important relationships in my life. I will choose love, truth and compassion over fear in all my interactions.” After doing this exercise, how do you feel? Write your answer in your journal. And … There was even so much more (this is really only the beginning), that I simply don’t have time to write about in this email to you! The important thing is, I want you to know that a life like this is not just possible after narcissistic abuse, it is your birthright. I am always so excited about helping others come along on the path that I am eternally walking, the exciting, incredible Divine right to be our Best Self. What I have discovered about life is that when we get the keys to unlock our True Self and True Life open, there is no stopping us. It doesn’t matter what people are doing or which situations are occurring in the world, or even if coronavirus is causing life to transform radically. Who You Are Being is the only True Way to create YOUR life. As an Empowered Self, you’re not only confident and harnessing a powerful trust and safety within, you will also enlist all of the power of Creation to back you up. This is when you will see incredible transformation in your outer life, as a representation of the Quantum Shift you have created in your inner life.  I am so excited to let you know about some upcoming information I have, that I know will take you to the next level of the life that you truly want to live … Stay tuned for a big announcement coming in a couple of days!