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If we can remember that our response to
others is important, we can begin to realize that honesty and forgiveness go
hand in hand. In life, there will always be times when we
are negatively affected by the actions of another person. When this happens,
we often receive an apology. More often than not, we say, “It’s all right,”
or “ It’s okay.” By saying this, we are allowing, accepting, and giving
permission for the behavior to happen again. When we say “thank you,” or “I
accept your apology,” we are forced to sit in our feelings rather than ignore
them. There are many of us who feel that it is
easier to brush off how we really feel than to express our discomfort with
something that has happened to us. While this may initially seem like the
best thing to do, what it does is put us into an unending pattern of
behavior. Since we are not honest with another person, we continue the cycle
of letting them overstep our emotional limits time and time again. By doing
this, we place ourselves in the position of victim. We can put an end to this
karmic chain by first acknowledging to the other person that we accept their
request for forgiveness; often a simple “thank you” is enough. To truly
create a greater sense of harmony in our relationship, however, we need to
gently, and with compassion, express our innermost concerns about what has
transpired. By taking a deep breath and calling upon the deepest parts of our
spirit, we can usually find the right words to let the other person know the
consequences of what they have done. If we can remember that our response to
others is important, we can begin to realize that trust and forgiveness go
hand in hand. And when we react in a way that engenders a greater amount of
honesty and candor, we will establish a more positive and empowering way of
being and interacting with others. |
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