Bright Ideas
Codependents
often attempt to convince others what to think, do or feel.
-- Control Patterns
It’s also no
longer about believing I know better than others what a Higher Power might look
like.
-- Issues with the God word, P. 84
I tend to fall
in love with my “bright ideas,” my ways of understanding why people do what
they do, for example. They really are pretty darn good - offering explanations
that free me from blaming and lead me toward compassion. I like that.
That applies to
the God word in CoDA. It took me decades to finally figure out that it could
mean the deep truth within me - the one that can give me guidance at every
moment on how to live my life fully and honestly. My Higher Self.
I capitalize
because that is my way of honoring what I, and I believe everyone, has been
blessed with. This is definitely a “bright idea” worth my love. But it is
MY idea - it is only for me.
As I have read
the dizzying array of ways other CoDA members have dealt with the issue of the
God word, I reflect on my tendency in conversation to launch into all the
reasons I see things the way I do. I try to sell others on the brilliance of my
“bright ideas.”
What a blessing
there are others in the program, such as the member who wrote the quote above,
who, oh so gently, reveal to me my codependent behavior. What is needed of me
is not spouting it out to others but relishing, with deep gratitude, my ways of
thinking and the serenity they produce in me.
John R.
01/23/2025
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